Don’t Say It…Don’t Say It

Mark Twain
Mark Twain on the Brain…with Paul McCartney

Yes, in the title of this post, I’m borrowing from Paul McCartney and Wings, but I’m inspired by Mark Twain. Quite a combo, right?  😉

The Paul McCartney & Wings 1979 hit,Goodnight, Tonight” includes a catchy chorus of “Don’t Say It…Don’t Say It” and I confess, it’s the musical score that bounces in my brain when I’m biting my tongue, resisting the urge to respond – typically with a jab.  Good to get the last word in, right?  

Earlier this week I spent a meditative moment mulling over creative compulsion – my need to express myself, use my words. 

Today?  I’m noodling on the importance of knowing when to shut up, Mark Twain style:

“The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.”

Yes! A short and sweet lesson that I need to remember – especially related to interpersonal communication.  (Or for that matter,  INTRApersonal – the maddening inner dialogue that runs continuously between my ears.)    

Interpreting Twain’s quote, I feel this:  Don’t respond, take the bait.  Let it roll…it’s okay. Pauses ARE good.  Time to reflect, consider our words.  Yep. 

But I also think it’s okay to do more than pause.  Not engaging at all is the best course of action, at times.  A lesson I’m still learning, punctuated with an ear-worm of a soundtrack, courtesy of Paul McCartney. Sing along with me, “Don’t Say It, Don’t Say It”…


-Vicki 😊

6 responses to “Don’t Say It…Don’t Say It”

  1. An Audience of One Avatar
    An Audience of One

    Reminds me of the quote by Abraham Lincoln (I think??), that says, “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt.” Not exactly the same context, but sort of related. 😉 In any case, I’ve definitely been working on this, but more from the aspect of “keep mouth shut” than pausing. I love the idea of a pause, and also how you tied it into your/our own thoughts! 🤍

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    1. Thanks so much, Kendra! Great reference with the Lincoln quote. So many smart tidbits to tap into…I just need to do it. Know that you’re not alone in trying to lock your lips (wink). Me too, me too! 😘

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  2. An Audience of One Avatar
    An Audience of One

    Also, those eyebrows! 😆

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    1. I know, right? It’s almost like they’re a voice of their own — sending SOME sort of message across the years. xo!

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  3. You’re speaking directly to me today. I just found myself in a situation where I decided to remove myself from the conversation entirely. A pause+ so to speak.

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    1. Well now…we’re new friends, but you MUST know I LOVE that. Thank you for sharing. Wacky — the cosmic channeling of shared experiences between blogging buds. Thanks, Ally. Appreciate your comment. 😉

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