“The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice.  Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.” -Ernest Hemingway

There’s so much symbolism at this time of year, no matter what holidays you celebrate, if any.  The end-of-year rituals of ‘taking stock’ might provide inspiration for the year ahead but could also trigger heartache in the form of endless rewinds about the ‘year that was’.

I think this is particularly true for those of us who veer toward the melancholy, prompting an irresistible urge to look over one’s shoulder, contemplating months of missed opportunities or losses. The new year beckons…but the vulnerable, those who need extra love, encouragement and support may not reach out for it in ways you’ll recognize.

When in Doubt? 

Be the one to extend your hand and heart first – with a quick text, a phone call or a smile.  Although no family is perfect and holiday time brings out both the best and worst in some of our clans, those who are alone, but perhaps not by choice, might fall prey to romanticizing the ‘home and hearth’ of others. 

Be the one, to share a silly story about holiday madness, or better yet, invite the person you care about – who might be flying solo – to join you, either physically or virtually in a short FaceTime or Zoom call. 

Holiday hugs, from me to you, and all those you care about.

Vicki ❤

19 thoughts on “Holiday Hugs

  1. Dear Victoria,

    Have you been told this today? You’re the best! Honestly, Victoria, thank you for continuing to be such a wonderful source of joy and wisdom. The humour you share is wonderful, too!

    Sending kind wishes to you and your husband! 🙏

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    1. Oh, my! See me smiling? Thank you, Art, for the lovely compliment. I suspect you understand, all too well, from your career as a first responder and medical professional that this time of year is fraught with health and wellness challenges of all sorts. Cheers to you for being a bright light — and thank you again for your kindness! ❤😊❤


      1. I’m glad that you’re smiling. I meant what I expressed. Yes, I (and so many “others”) realize both personally and professionally that this time of year can be challenging for so many. The good news is that dear souls like you can and do make a positive difference by caring. Thank you for your kind words–they mean a lot.
        Blessings to you….from the heart. 🙏🧡

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  2. Beautiful, Vicki! “Be the one” indeed — and the whole world benefits from people like you who not only encourage us to “be the one” but also walk the walk and consistently extend themselves on behalf of others. Thank you, my friend!! Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family!! ❤ ❤ ❤

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  3. Oh my goodness, what great advice Victoria. Love it. You’re the best. I can have my melancholy moments and I definitely need to watch “romanticizing the ‘home and hearth’ of others” . . . I absolutely love this advice. Love that it gets me out of my own head and into thinking about others and acting. I’ll let you know how my silly stories of holiday madness go over! If they don’t, so be it, at least I extended my “hand and heart first.” Have a fabulous Christmas!

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  4. The quote started it off for me, then the message was so beautifully delivered from there. And now? I’m off to make some of those phone calls. Thank you, Vicki! Have a wonderful holiday! 🤍

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  5. What a lovely and timely message! I, too, tend towards melancholy a bit, so it’s easy to get lost in my head or wait for someone else to be the one to reach out. I’m following Kendra’s lead and making a few phone calls today. 😘

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    1. Ohhhh….yay! I’m glad to hear you connected with the post and I’m not surprised about you and a melancholy tendency…your deep thinker soul surely connects with big feelings, soulfulness. Thanks, Erin! 🧡

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