Keeping Company

There are two lines from a Mary Oliver poem, “Mysteries, Yes” that I adore, in part because it serves as a warning and a reminder that being selective about the people, the energy I allow into my life is an active effort.

I’d planned to send a snippet of Oliver’s poem to a particular person this morning…a dear one who is struggling as she navigates a bumpy trail of unsolicited, narrow-minded input from a friend.

Instead? I decided the message is a worthy reminder for most of us. See what you think:

Let me keep my distance, always, from those who think they have the answers.

Let me keep company always with those who say, “Look!” and laugh in astonishment and bow their heads.

I’ve had plenty of ‘answer people’ in my life – the folks who found comfort in quick conclusions and used their determinations and appraisals as measuring sticks, assessing those around them. 

I understand the comfort that can come from conclusions, but I’m a believer in the power of the open door – to wonder. 

Whether it was the majesty of the eclipse last week or nature at work (especially this time of year in the Northern Hemisphere) I see the beauty of works in progress. Trees budding and bursting – showing their delicate blooms in a rainbow of pastel blossoms. The becoming…

Slow-release revelry. 

We’re here…we made it.  Ready for another show, another growing season of wonder and delight.

Mary Oliver knew.  When the know-it-alls summon their opinions and puff up their chests, intent on dominating, I say look for the open-hearted souls. Those who engage in unbridled wonder. 

“Mysteries, Yes” by Mary Oliver

“Truly, we live with mysteries too marvelous
to be understood.

How grass can be nourishing in the
mouths of the lambs.

How rivers and stones are forever
in allegiance with gravity,
while we ourselves dream of rising.

How two hands touch and the bonds will
never be broken.

How people come, from delight or the
scars of damage,
to the comfort of a poem.

Let me keep my distance, always, from those
who think they have the answers.

Let me keep company always with those who say
“Look!” And laugh in astonishment
and bow their heads.”

Vicki ❤

P.S. You might like this…a related post from the Victoria Ponders archives about nature and beautiful blooms.



55 responses to “Keeping Company”

  1. You were 100% correct, Vicki. This is an important reminder for everyone. And you’ve spread the message beautifully! 💕

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    1. Adore you, Jane! Thank you! 🥰

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  2. Beautiful poem directing my mind towards kindness and compassion, thoughtfulness, and gratitude. Thank you for sharing, Vicki. I feel more resilient for having read it.

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    1. Ohhh…you’ve made my morning, David! Thank you for letting me know. 🥰

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      1. “That was easy” 😏

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  3. My first comment didn’t seem to go through. @$!*& WordPress. Of course, it could have been keyboard user error too. D’oh. Anyway, I wrote this brilliant masterpiece on how sometimes I’m my own worst enemy. I was brought up that you should be kind to others and that’s all well and good, but life has taught me too that when people show you who they are . . . trust them. And back off. A neighbor phrased less it poetically than Oliver or you, but she used to say to be wary of people with all the answers, “the only ones with the answers are God and the Encyclopedia.” Ha, ha.

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    1. Hey…so I’m not alone with WP glitchy-ness? I don’t understand either! D’oh…indeed! Thanks for persevering and trying again. I love your neighbor’s wisdom. Yes! And your point about paying attention…people will show you (eventually, I mean there are some awesome actors out there) who they are. Agree! Thanks, Brian! 🥰

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  4. Thoughtful and compelling. (And during National Poetry Month as well)

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    1. Oh, gosh. I hadn’t put that together at all. Thank you, dear Joy! 🥰

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  5. Yes indeed! We all need to be reminded. A lovely message.

    Your summer blooms were a delight to see this morning. Thank you!

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    1. Thank you, Nancy! 🥰

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  6. Yes, an openness to possibilities and not judgement in relationships allows the contact to unfold, sometimes in surprising directions. Thanks, Vicki.

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    1. Thank you! Openness. Yes! 😉

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  7. Ooh, the majesty of works in progress… what a lovely thought, and timely reminder to stop and check out the rosebuds, even before they’ve had the opportunity to bloom. Beautiful, Vicki! 🥰

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    1. Well, you know me. I like that whole ‘work in progress’ ideology. Giving grace, allowing for growth even when it might be hard for onlookers to detect. Thanks so much, Erin! 🥰

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  8. Absolutely love this Vicki and can relate on every level. Wonder and curiosity keep us moving forward. Without wonder we’d never know and there is so much to know and so little we do understand. And often, the more answers we have, the more questions arise.
    I love Mary Oliver’s work. There is such quiet wisdom within it.
    Thank you for sharing. You are so poetic.

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    1. Ohhh…you are too kind! I’m not surprised that we share the love of wonder. Your point about answers being insufficient, often prompting more and more questions, is an observation I love. Reminds me that “receiving” and patience are virtues. Big hugs! 🥰

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  9. I read somewhere that when we lose our sense of “awe” for everyday wonders then we lose our ability to feel joy. I watch my grandkids scamper around finding joy in things like lizards, snails, chalk, a flower, the way a toilet flushes, or how tomatoes grow. They inspire me to keep scanning for joy. I find that almost anything red makes me smile. Love Mary Oliver, I invite her into my writing sessions on a regular basis. She’s brilliant. Hugs, C

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    1. Yes! And I chuckled about your observations about the delights that your grandkids find…the things that they’re curious about…even how a toilet works. Wonder around every corner! 🥰

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  10. Such a nourishing post. Thanks for being someone who is always willing to say, “Look!” and spread the wonder! Beautiful! ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Right back at you! 🥰

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  11. Mary certainly has things figured out quite nicely, doesn’t she Vicki? Thanks for sharing this. I for one will continue to keep my soul wide-open with wonder.🙂

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    1. Yay for that! Another win for wonder! Thank you so much, Bruce. 🥰

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  12. oh, I love this so much and have never heard it before, it is exactly how I feel about the people I choose to surround myself with

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    1. Ohh…so good! Thanks, Beth! 🥰

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  13. So true. We need to acknowledge that there are mysteries in life that are too hard to fully comprehend. So we can offer opinions and advice but never the final answer because no one knows. Leaving the door open to possibilities and wonder is always helpful.

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    1. I like your supportive approach, offering advice and opinions but leaving space for wonder. Thank you, Edward! 🥰

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  14. What a lovely poem, Vicki. When we think we have all the answers, we close our mind to learning. I openly admit there are many things I don’t know but that’s what makes life interesting. There’s so much more to learn.

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    1. I’m with you, Michelle. Plenty to learn and remaining open might be one of those “sleeper secrets” for longevity, too!

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      1. Most definitely! I’m seeing new research and evidence every day on the power of a growth mindset in helping people age well. Brilliant stuff! Have a fabulous day, Vicki. 🤗

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        1. I knew it! I love all that you’re doing as you work on your next adventures – helping others as they approach the wonders…of retirement. I’ll look forward to some terrific content from you. I can feel it percolating! 🥰

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    Wow! I wish I had written what Mary Oliver did. Those two thoughts say an awful lot. My wife and I have had this conversation many times about how we enjoy being around the same kind of people: kind, compassionate, funny and the ones we typically avoid: those who act like know-it-alls who think they’re opinion is more valid than anyone else’s and resort to name-calling when someone disagrees with them.

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    1. I love your comment about you and Debbie as a couple. Paul and I are like-minded, too. We both cringe around overly opinionated blowhards…whether in person or on TV…juvenile and unnecessary. 😉

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  16. I like your message and how you presented it. I’ve been musing on this very thing these last few weeks, acknowledging that I feel comfortable around pleasant intelligent people, while other judgey close-minded people get on my last nerve. Also wondering if this is going to get worse the closer we get to November?

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    1. You are perceptive, Ally Bean! I didn’t say it directly, but political nonsense is an undercurrent of frustration, providing inspiration for this post. Being near someone who clings to a point of view, politically, can be painful when we want them to see more clearly.

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  17. This post, yes! It shines with — to use your phrase — “open-hearted soul.” I’d rather try to be one of those kinds of folks than act like a know-it-all. Or act like a constant critic. Laughing in astonishment is more delightful 🙂

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    1. I like your point Dave…the know-it-all types OR the constant critics. Sometimes they ride together, sometimes not but they’re equally awful. 😜

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  18. Beautiful, Vicki. More to being open and curious and wonder and less about the ready formed answers. We need more of this in our lives. 💕

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    1. Gosh, I agree! I know it can be hard, but you set such a good example…what you and the hubs do so well with T… letting life unfold and being grateful. Hugs to each of you! 🥰

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  19. Oh yes, a lovely poem for reflection and this is so good – ““Truly, we live with mysteries too marvelous to be understood.” And isn’t that wonderful!

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    1. Yes, yes! Thank you, Mary! 🥰❤️🥰

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  20. I am seriously allergic to the blowhards, gossips, and know-it-all blabbermouths who make me want to run for the nearest exit. This makes me wonder—am I—or have I—ever been guilty of such behavior? Probably so. Yikes. Your beautiful post gives me added incentive to monitor my thoughts, feelings and words (both spoken and unspoken) and make in-flight corrections when necessary. Thank you for the reminder! There is always work to be done. Sigh.

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    1. Does it help to know you’re not alone, LOL, in the “work to be done” department? Me, too! Me, too! I think being aware of what NOT to be is a good first step, eh? Love you, Jules! 🥰

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      1. Yep—we’re all works in progress in varying stages of completion along the way! Love having you as a traveling companion! 👏😘

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        1. Right back at you, dear one! Sending big, big hugs! 🥰🥰🥰

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  21. love this poem of possibilities and your essay of wonder! XoV

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    1. Thank you, Vickie! 🥰❤️🥰

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    1. Thank you so much! 🥰

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