I’ll spare you all of the details, but a dear client came to me this week with a dilemma. A rewind of a persistent issue…
For several years he’s allowed someone he thought of as a friend to live rent free in his head, plagued by her insensitivities and indiscretions of all sorts. Perhaps you know the feeling? Plagued by a person who needles you that way?
He’s done the dance of politeness and doesn’t want to harbor a grudge, but his edges show every time he’s around her.
He performs, she’s none the wiser, but the after effect for him? Utter exhaustion.
Moving on…
Might be my two favorite empowerment words...
Will she notice, he wondered, if he pulls back? He answered his own question in less than a beat. Nope. “She’s too wrapped up in her own world.”
He has tools, options. “She” isn’t part of his work life and she’s not family. No ties to bind or complicate. He’s empowered. When I reminded him of this – that she’s in a category I refer to as “discretionary” – he smiled.
“Right, right,” he said. “How we spend our time is the most important decision we make every day. I’m moving on.”
The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention.
-Thich Nhat Hanh
What I enjoy most about helping others? Often I’m just a talking post or a mirror to insights already nestled within, waiting to be seen and heard.
Here’s to you with hopes that you, too, will use your precious time well.
Vicki 😊
Victoria Ponders 
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