Yesterday I learned a dear friend suffered a heart wrenching loss – the unexpected passing of a dear uncle. She said she’d felt a tug to reach out to him over the past few months but didn’t slow down to do so.
How close to home does that confession hit? Too close. Too close for me.
On days when I think I can’t add one more task or duty, if a dear one pops to mind, I pause. A quick phone call or a text. Don’t question. Just do.
There’s not a thing in the world my friend could’ve done to alter the course of events for her uncle. Not a blessed thing and yet the emotional weight she’s carrying for not taking the time…for one last outreach, even if it was only one-way? I see how it’s compounding her grief.
“It would’ve taken no time at all,” she said.
While I’m doing what I can to support her, I see the applicability of her insight, as I swivel it in my direction.
Make haste. Take action.
For comfort, I invoke a quote from poet Kamand Kojouri reminding me that the modest effort involved to keep loved ones close…even if only in memories…is time well spent.
Head and heart up, I recite Kojouri’s simple, yet profound statement:
“I will look for you in every lifetime and love you there.”
A sentiment which settles me; reminds me to slow down and remember. Reach out. Tell the stories. Talk about the ones we’ve lost. With love abundant.
Vicki 💗
P.S. Yesterday was the ninth anniversary of my mom, Sue’s passing. I figured the Universe was speaking to me, through my friend and the beautiful conversation we had about love and loss on my own heavy-hearted day.
Lagniappe? A little more? Posts you may have missed about love and loss:
Memories Matter – Victoria Ponders
Not Here…But Near – Victoria Ponders
Check out this link to learn more about my book, “Surviving Sue”.
Victoria Ponders 
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