You Were Right

Being a decisive one, I run on conviction most days. Unafraid to take a position on the field yet I need to remember to yield. Give my fellow players…in the game of life…their due.  

I love a meditative moment when awareness peaks.

Across the day, I get swept up in all the “other” but in the morning?

I see and hear better. From the inside out and outside in. Like this:

You Were Right

Three words with mutual benefits

You don’t see it all, know it all, Vicki

Stay open. Head and chin up

Ready to receive

Acknowledge insight from others

Corrective and loving, wrapped in understanding

Say the words, YOU WERE RIGHT with gratitude

A runway to a longer apologetic message

Or not…maybe just three words

With a two-word chaser

Thank you


I know my own tendencies. The desire to wear certainty like a cloak. It can be cozy…or constraining. I hope I’ll never be too old for insight.

Vicki 😊

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65 responses to “You Were Right”

  1. As a married man, those three words can bring more peace to your life than any other.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing that, Duke. I think you’re right! Nothing is more powerful. Sending big hugs and smiles to you! 🥰

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    2. Duke, I think you might appreciate my father-in-law’s secret to a happy marriage: “I’m sorry. You were right. I must have misunderstood”. 😂

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  2. Yeah. I tend to think I’m always right. While holding firm is good …😉

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    1. Oh….I like that. “Holding firm”. Still willing to bend and flex but still in position. xo, LA! 🥰

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  3. Wearing certainty like a cloak. Hmm, I’m going to have to think about that one! 😊

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    1. Thanks, Jane. Protective gear might’ve been a better choice of words!😉

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  4. A lovely reminder, Vicki. Thank you.

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  5. We’re on the same wavelength again Vicki! I was thinking about this recently. I said the simple words “you were right, I was wrong” and it was interesting seeing the smile in the other person. Like winter had changed in seconds to summer. Good stuff.

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    1. Wow…”like winter changed to summer”…that’s SO perfect! You are a poet, Mr. Hannon! 🥰

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  6. boom. when we have those moments of clarity and it absolutely resets us. important to say the words to the person who needs to hear them, as well as the one who says them. I recently had this revelation when dealing with my brother, who can be challenging. I was often telling him what he should do, offering alternatives, suggestions, etc. I decided to just let it be, and listen to him, whether I agree, or what I would do and let him move through life without my ‘utterances.’ I feel lighter already and he seems to as well.

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    1. Oh my. Your comment’s giving me ALL the feelings, Beth. You got the heart of my post. Listening, checking our “utterances”. Feeling lighter as a result. Thank you so much for sharing. xo! 🥰

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  7. Oh, those three words are not only magic to say but magic to hear!
    Thank you for the reminder!
    🥰🥰🥰

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    1. You’re very welcome, dear Nancy. 🥰

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  8. It’s tough when we have strong beliefs to open ourselves up to other ideas. And yet it’s so important for understanding the world around us, others, and ourselves. It is however equally important to stand our ground sometimes, holding our boundaries firm. It’s a balance between conviction and convincing. Love your insights Vicki. 💕

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    1. Live your thoughts about balance and boundaries. Yes! Important to be open but not too malleable. 🥰 xo!

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      1. Yes exactly. You got it girl. I’m sure of it. 💕

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  9. Humbleness endows a human with a lovely approachableness, doesn’t it!

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    1. Love that, Joy. Approachable – yes! Xo! ❤️

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  10. Well, this has me thinking. Do I acknowledge those moments where instinct/ intuition proves valid. Doubt it.

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    1. I’m with you…glad you’re thinking. ❤️

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  11. Many truths here, Vicki. Love this! Yes, being open to receive (Ready to receive, as you say), is KEY! Woo-hoo!

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  12. This gave me a hearty laugh. It’s all too relatable, both to the certainty and the eventual acknowledgement that I was wrong. 😂 It’s a good skill to learn.

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    1. You got me! And it was such a stupid little thing — the “truth” I clung to. Xo, Erin! 🥰

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  13. Love this and so amusing and laughable too.. xo💓

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    1. Yay! You’ve picked up my vibe – perfectly! 🥰

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  14. It take a lot to say that…especially when it means we were wrong. Life is an ongoing learning experience…

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    1. Yes…and what I realized (the inspo for the post) is that remembering to say we’re wrong…someone else was right…even about the smallest thing… can go a long way. My ‘oops’ and apology put a smile on someone’s face that surprised me. Inspired me. xo! 🥰

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  15. I’m sharing this post with my spouse and said a professional said so! 😆

    It is wonderful when we can all embrace, myself included, that we’re all in a constant state of learning and growing.

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    1. You are cracking me up! Sure thing, Ab! “Constant state of learning and growing”. Yeah, buddy! I’m with you. (And good luck citing Dr. Vicki — I’ll back you up!) 🥰🤣🥰

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  16. We love being right, don’t we? And it feels so good to know that sometimes we aren’t. We get to give up being perfect and just be. Lovely poem and post, my friend.

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    1. Oh. So well said, Diana – giving up perfection in order to just be. I love that. Thank you! 🥰

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  17. You’re giving me a good reminder. I have said that to my husband a few times lately. Plus the two word Thank you!

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    1. You betcha…and you know. I write in order to talk to myself. Glad it makes sense to you! 🥰

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      1. Writing is a good way to work out our feelings, emotions and even to do lists! 😊

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        1. Oh, hey – I like your thinking. Yes! xo! 🥰

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  18. I remember once when, as a reporter, I made a mistake in my copy. I got a phone call from a reader, and when I saw my error, told the gentleman who called that he was right. I also apologized. It stunned him. He’d apparently made many calls like that, and never once had he been told he was right. Now, no doubt he wasn’t always right, but there had to have been enough times…he became my biggest fan.

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    1. Belinda! You’re making my heart sing! That’s just the sort of ‘you’re right’…and I’m sorry that drove the inspiration for this post. How often we skip past the acknowledgements to others that we’ve goofed or were incorrect. Intentionally or otherwise. I love your story from your days as a reporter. So good! 🥰🥰🥰

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  19. Three words, with a two word chaser. I love it!

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    1. I love that you love it! 🥰❤️🥰

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  20. “You were right” and “Thank you”—both powerful words that can spare us many headaches. Wonderful post, Vicki.

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    1. What a great philosophy – thank you, Edward! 🥰

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    Everyone loves to hear those words, particularly when you have had a disagreement with someone. It takes a big person to admit they were wrong; some people lack that ability.

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    1. Thank you for that, Pete. I agree! 🥰

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  22. Beautiful. And I’m please to report that I said, “You’re right…” to my husband just this afternoon!

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  23. Never too old for insight – that is so good! Not to mention the core message. Three powerful words. That is such a great reminder! Yes! Love this beautiful post!

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    1. Thank you, Wynne. Vicki self-talk. Yep, yep, yeppers! xo! 🥰

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  24. I’d love to pass this along to my dear, sweet, opinionated, advice-giving, suggestion-making friend who cannot help herself from trying to be helpful. I know she means well, but let that be a lesson to me! Unsolicited advice is not always welcome! Sometimes one just needs room to “think out loud” in a safe space without fear of being bombarded with another’s opinion of how to “fix” it. Maybe I’ll just try the “You are right” magic bullet and stop her in her tracks. The magic bullet sprays love and compassion all over everything, right? Love you Vicki!

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    1. Oh, Julia — you said it! “Cannot help herself from trying to be helpful”. I think I might know your friend, LOL. Love your thoughts…room to think out loud in a safe space. Musing, right? With abandon! Oh…the places you and I could go if we let our thoughts run wild – together. Love and compassion fuel us. Yes! Now and always. Love you, Jules! 💕💕💕

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  25. It’s why writers write, right? It’s a safe space where we give ourselves room to discern the answers from within—the answers that come from the heart and wisdom of the soul—not from the well-meaning but often misguided thoughts of others. True listening is the greatest gift we can give. I need more practice! I love listening to you my friend!

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    1. I love listening to you and reeling in your insights, Jules. Answers from within. Wisdom from the soul. And I don’t think you need even a smidgen of practice. You’re the teacher, silly girl! 💕🥰💕

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  26. Also, it must be said, the name of a great Built to Spill song.

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    1. Ohhhh! I had no idea! 😎🥰😎

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  27. yes, Vicki – you are right! This is a great post and reminder! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

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  28. I like those three words, but then who doesn’t? I love you is great, but sometimes it takes a bit more to convince me of your love. You reading this, Zen-Den? 😜

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    1. “a bit more to convince”…love that, Ally…and I hope Zen-Den’s paying attention! xo! 🥰

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