Me & Mariah

I would never have guessed that I had something…anything in common with Mariah Carey.

Talented songstress and chanteuse. Not my jam, but who can deny the upbeat, seasonal appeal of “All I Want for Christmas”?  A holiday anthem – a toe-tapper according to my dad.

But last week I discovered that I do, indeed, have something in common with Mariah. Nope. Not related to music, fashion or anything pop culture related. Not about fancy homes or lavish lifestyles. Certainly not a mutual love of glitter and spangles and sparkle. Nope. Can you guess what it is?

During a time of hard-hitting and often loathsome news on the political front, I will admit I fell prey to click bait. An article about Mariah Carey’s venomous hatred. Not toward a person…but toward…wait for it…

Bad Lighting.

Yes, folks. Bad lighting. In all aspects – not just stage or performance related. Mariah hates overhead lighting and I’ve gotta say. I’m with her all the way.

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If I’m ever in an overly lit room with you, you’ll see the proof as I fumble around, desperately seeking dimmer switches. Flipping anything ceiling mounted OFF, OFF, OFF. I’ll stumble in the dark and trip over my own feet in the process – without complaint – because the glare of squint-worthy lighting is an assault to my senses.

Consolation point? When I can, I wear my sunglasses – even if there’s only a smidgen of sunlight. A hold over from the pre-pandemic days when I needed to use my sunglasses as a shield for my contact lenses…that were always picking up debris of some sort, causing my eyes to be overly teary and itchy. My dear friend Kristen once pronounced the fate of contact lens wearers during allergy season thusly: “Like cornflakes on your corneas”. What a description, right?

I jest, but I don’t want to. The discomfort is real…and has psychological consequences for many people. Designers and architects will tell you how much lighting matters. Set designers and filmmakers, playwrights know, too. Photographers and painters, too. Light? It’s everything and I say we have a right to light…in whatever way it works best for us.

(BTW – look for my post this coming Wednesday on Heart of the Matter. I have another riff on lighting from an artistic perspective. With a possible genetic connection on hubby’s side of the family. Fun!) 😉

Neurodiverse folks? Florescent lights present challenges on several fronts from the incessant, disruptive buzzing to unnatural shadows cast by the harshness. Overstimulation might be the outcome – sensory overload.  

Task lighting. Softer lighting. Thoughtful lighting… I’m on board. And for friends and colleagues who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder, we’re just a couple of weeks away from the end of Daylight Savings Time in the U.S. The reduction in the amount of light we can glean from each day has impact on so many.

I appreciate what Dr. Richard Schwartz, Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard has to say about self-care strategies:

…”an early morning walk can offer… light therapy benefits. A bright sunny day is about 50,000 lux, and a gray day is around 10,000 lux. Strolling outdoors soon after sunrise, even on a cloudy day, provides almost the same amount of light exposure as a light box.

On sunny days, the sun is bright enough to get a therapeutic effect even if you wear sunglasses (which protect your eyes from the sun’s ultraviolet radiation…if you walk for 30 minutes, you’ll also get a healthy dose of mood-boosting exercise. But if time or mobility constraints make that goal too challenging, sitting outside for just 15 minutes at any time of day may make a difference in your mood.”

Here’s hoping you’re taking good care of yourself, lighting related and otherwise. Please share any of your own strategies so I can learn from you…and let me know if you’re part of the “Mariah and Vicki” club.

Vicki 😎


Mariah Carey Jokes About Being ‘Tortured’ by ‘Hideous’ Overhead Lighting in Fun Clip: ‘Please Stop It!’ (msn.com)

Mood Changers: Why Lighting is The Most Important Design Feature | ArchDaily

Seasonal Affective Disorder | Psychology Today

Light therapy: Not just for seasonal depression? – Harvard Health



61 responses to “Me & Mariah”

  1. The article and you must be referring to this hilarious clip of her avoiding the overhead lighting: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/YZJB467uyy4

    She is such a diva but you can’t help but love her! 😆

    I agree that lighting is everything, when taking photos all the way to virtual meetings.

    Mariah, who is thawing somewhere and getting ready for Christmas, will agree!

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    1. Oh! I bet you’re right, Ab. The article made me giggle…and boy did I succumb to the ‘click bait’…but then I realized. I can’t disagree with her! And it made me think of the seasonal shifts occurring as many of us lose natural light. Thanks for chiming in with a giggle. xo! 🥰

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  2. I love the light you shine here, Vicki! Good lighting matters for sure. The way you go full circle with SAD, differing sensory perceptions, and self-care is such a beautiful reminder that we all need to get the right light! Thank you, my friend!!

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    1. Thank you, dear one! Goodness knows YOU bring the light in so many ways. Xo! 🥰❤️🥰

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  3. I have to have light when I’m working, whether on a computer, an easel, or a cutting board. No light or bad light, and I don’t go there. And I’d rather be in bright sunlight with sunglasses and a hat than a gray overcast day (although overcast does lend some interest shades to potential future subjects to subject to my own bizarre artistic interpretation.) But for just chilling, I shine best when living life in the shadows.

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    1. I love your very thoughtful Michael-specific thoughts about lighting! Maybe that’s the trick? Finding out what’s optimal for each of us – in varying situations? So good. Thank you, Michael! 😎❤️😎

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  4. I have to admit, I knew little about the effects of overhead lighting. That’s mostly what I have at home! And all i have at work! You’ve given me something to ponder.

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    1. Ohhh…let me know what you discover about your preferences. 🥰

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  5. Our new apt has non-dimmable pot lights, and it does take getting used to, for sure. But with my eyesight, better too much light than too little. I know what you mean about contacts and discomfort. I was just as happy when I started needed progressive lenses and decided to give up on contacts. When I started with them, back in the very early days, they were hard plastic. Talk about serious discomfort, all in the name of teenage “beauty”! 😜

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    1. Love your point, Jane. I think it’s the source of the constant tussle we have around here with lighting (some couples argue about the thermostat, Paul and I fuss about lighting!). He likes a lot more than I do, but I need to remember it’s a task-specific need for him, very often. And gah! Yes. Those awful “gas permeable” plastic lenses. They WERE painful. Cheers to wearing glasses! 🥰😁🥰

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  6. I enjoyed this post. As a former hard contact lens wearer from seventh grade to right before COVID when I had cataract surgery, I can sympathize with the “cornflakes on your corneas.” Also, fluorescent lighting is more than annoying. My daughter was diagnosed with Scotopic Sensitivity and she had a tough time in classrooms with fluorescent lights. I’d find her doing homework in her bedroom with the lights off. Although our medical doctor didn’t believe Scotopic Sensitivity was real, she definitely had light sensitivity. A positive side effect was being the best sea glass hunter in our family!

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    1. Oh my -yes! Sometime referred to as a “visual stress disorder”. I’m sorry to hear this about your daughter, but as you said — it makes sense when you think about her lighting preferences. Thanks so much for sharing, Elizabeth. And for sharing the chuckle about “cornflakes on the corneas”.
      Xo! ❤️

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  7. Part of the lighting problem has to do with finding a partner who agrees with you about lighting. Then there is the issue of the four people who man my sedan chair. My crew refuses to begin early enough to get me good dose of morning sun. As you can imagine, I live in despair and darkness.😭

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    1. Truth right there! Paul’s need for light is soooo different than my own. You’ll need to “enlighten” me 😉 — what’s a ‘sedan chair’? Sounds like you need a new crew? 😁

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    2. Oh! Never mind! Sedan chair = chariot. In that case you definitely need new…foot men? 😜

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  8. LOL. I am NOT a fan of Mariah Carey so I was quite worried when I saw your headline. I feared you were going to tell me you are a secret diva and I would have to reconsider our friendship. 😂

    I tend to agree on the bright lights. I read somewhere that, as lighting has become more energy efficient, we’ve nullified the energy saving effects by just using more of it. Sigh.

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    1. Michelle…I know you’re a good distance away…but even so…did you hear me just now? Seriously…laughing out LOUD LOUD LOUD? You win! Best giggle of the day. No – no need to reconsider our friendship. At least not related to Mariah moments. 😜 Thank you dear one.
      And…cheers to energy efficient lighting AND using less of it. Great point there. xo!

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      1. Glad I could make you laugh, Vicki. Enjoy your Sunday! 🤗

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        1. You too — and safe travels this week! I’m bummed our timing is off, but there’s always next time! 🥰

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          1. Thank you. I will wave to you on approach to O’Hare. 😂 Nex time!

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  9. I actually love Mariah Carey. At least when I was younger and would sing along to her songs at the top of my lungs. Never mind that I lived in an apartment building at the time and the guy down the hall thought I was a singer. 🤣🤣🤣
    As far as lighting, I prefer soft cozy lights, especially candlelight in the early morning or late evening. Though I’m not averse to bright afternoon sunshine. I love a brilliant day.
    Walking through a brightly lit Walmart is not my thing, unless of course Mariah is on the sound system. 😆
    Thanks for your light my friend. 💕

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    1. Well, there you go! I love your ‘dependencies’ thought. Bright light + Mariah…even at Walmart will do, eh? I’m all for brilliant natural sunshine. We’re lucky and have a day like that today…replying to you from the deck. October is really putting on a show today. Big hugs to you! 💕🥰💕

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      1. Agreed. October has been beautiful. Yesterday was spectacular and today promises the same. Enjoy! 💕

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        1. You, too. Have a great Monday! 🥰☀️🥰

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  10. great points all, and I know that people have strong feelings about how much light is too much or too little, or is painful, unflattering, or irritating. often we don’t even realize it for a while, how it makes us feel good or bad or uncomfortable. all is want for christmas is soft focus )

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    1. Good one!! I’ll order that up for you , Beth! Soft-focus sounds great. 🥰🎄🥰

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  11. Mariah has made millions just from that Christmas song!

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    1. Oh my goodness. Wow! 😜

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  12. You certainly grab attention with that post title! I wondered, Where’s Vicki going with this topic? And I never (ever ever) would’ve guessed overhead lighting 😆 I’m okay with overhead lighting if it’s not fluorescent. To me, fluorescent lighting is harsh and mind-numbing.

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    1. Sneaky of me…but you caught me. Engaging in my own form of “click bait” with the title of my post. 🤪

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  13. My eyes are pretty light-sensitive as well. Not as sensitive as my dad’s though. Yet another indication that he may be on the spectrum.

    I definitely prefer natural light. Most days, I never turn a light switch on until dusk or after.

    Also, I had a laugh of the image that popped into my mind of you going around “flipping off” lights…

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    1. David…thanks so much for your comment. Appreciate your thoughts about light sensitivity…and the fact that you enjoyed my “light flipping” chuckle. 🤪🥰🤪

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  14. OK, but can you also hit those glass-shattering high notes? If so, I’ll be super impressed.

    I am ALL about lighting, which is why I own a bajillion lava lamps, not to mention multiple smart bulbs with voice-activated dimmers. I’m sensitive to bright lights, too.

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    1. Nope…no ear-popping high notes for me…just a shared disdain for overhead lights. Gah! And right! I remember you sharing about your lava lamps. The ultimate in soothing lighting! 🥰😎🥰

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  15. You are funny. And wise. I’m not a Mariah lover (too much overexposure ahem, in Christmas song and décolletage) but I’m not a lover of lotsa light, even though I love L I G H T. Light up my life, you are the light, your light shines bright. That light I like. But not overhead lights or florescent lights or bright bright lightbulbs. NO. Hurts my eyes. I need to wear sunglasses in a house if the light is too bright. I hear that light-colored eyes are more sensitive to light. Are you gray/green/blue eyed like me? And I believe in the need for sunshiney light to help our mood. But in the mid of winter I have a hard time with even a 15-minute walk outside, although the other seasons I walk an hour a day.
    P.S. You’re much nicer than Mariah!

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    1. Pam! You’re bringing the light and love in your comment. Thank you so much for sharing that we have this sensitivity in common. Cheers to wearing sunglasses whenever necessary. Yes!
      My eyes are hazel so not really light eyes like you but I think years of wearing contact lenses did something to create sensitivity.
      Much love to you for stopping by. Hope all is well in your world. Xo! 🥰

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  16. I love the energy in this post, Vicki, and I’m with you, not a fan of Mariah’s. She has a great voice but not my kind of music. “All I want for Christmas” is a fun song for the holidays though. 🎶 As to light, my eyes have never been able to handle bright lights. They change colors between hazel/green/with a speck of yellow. I never knew this until I was older and a friend told me.
    So, even on cloudy days, the visor in my car is down because the sky is too bright. I always have to wear sunglasses outside. Anyway, I understand how you have this in common with Mariah; I do too, apparently. Cheers to always looking for the light when darkness seems stubborn, but to protecting our precious eyes! ❤️🤗

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    1. Oh my goodness. Your comment is delightful. Kindred sisters! My eyes are hazel with those golden flecks and I never thought about sensitivity because I thought “light” eyes (blue, especially) were more impacted. Love your thought about looking for the light…while taking care of our peepers! Xo, Lauren! 🥰😎🥰

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      1. Kindred sisters! Yay! Sending hugs, Vicki, and lots of light, the good kind! 😁🤗💞🌷

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  17. “All I Want for Christmas?” My son loves that song, but we think it’s more about the singer than the actual song…we’ll leave that for another day. Fascinating information about the benefits of getting some good sunlight. I worked in underground facilities on a few occasions, and I hated it, especially in the winter. Going to work in the dark and coming back home in the dark without a chance to see the sun is not fun. As always, a great post, Vicki.

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    1. Thank you for the smile, Edward! I’m chuckling about your observation about your son, LOL. You make an excellent, excellent point about the challenges for shift workers and those working long hours without a chance to see sunlight…daylight…at all. I know a few folks who never really adapted to those challenges. For those who do so while serving in the military…just another reason to be thankful for sacrifices of all sorts. Thank you so much. 💕

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      1. You’re welcome, and I should start hearing him sing “All I Want for Christmas Is You” very soon. 😂

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  18. I agree! I am not fond of bright overhead lighting.

    I would much rather have small lamps lit to create ambiance.

    And in the mornings, do not put the lights on early. I will squirm and shriek! And shield my face!

    I guess I, too, have something in common with Mariah. 😄

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    1. Squirm and shriek! Hey — something else I love about you! 🥰😜🥰

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  19. WOW, how interesting Victoria. By working with photographers in the past, especially during photo shoots with models, I know how important lighting is, even though I am far from being an expert. Lighting can certainly make or break a deal. 💡😁💡 I do love Mariah’s music and her voice, ever since she came on the scene with “Vision of Love.” Now, I’m not a fan of the “Diva” persona she has become…too pretentious for my tastes. But I am diverse on just about every type of music, except hard rock. Thanks for sharing your lighting pet peeve my dear Dr. Vicki! 😜😲🤣

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    1. You are right…so right…about the power of lighting for photo shoots…and I’d forgotten about “Vision of Love”. I really like that one! Thanks so much, Kym. 🥰❤️🥰

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      1. Oh my dear Dr. Vicki, you are the life of the party my friend. I appreciate you! Hugs and smooches! 🥰💖😘

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  20. […] spaces and I will steer clear of overly lit rooms that are squint-worthy. (See my recent “Victoria Ponders” post about “Me & Mariah” for a chuckle with notes of seriousness about seasonal […]

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  21. Omg just 2 nights ago we were at a fundraiser and we were like “dim the lights if you want more money” lol 💕

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    1. Oh my goodness…that’s such a perfect line! And true, I’d say. Thanks for the morning giggle, Cindy! 🥰🥰🥰

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  22. Wonder what Mariah thinks about loud and annoying unnecessary noise—and corporate greed (or any for of greed, that matter)?

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    1. Great question, Jules! ❤️

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  23. This is interesting. I’ve often wondered if my preference to low lighting is due to me being highly sensitive and gifted. In my home, I prefer to use natural lighting, and if it gets dark, I like lamps or the low lighting option on the overhead ceiling fan thingee. At work, I turn off the lights and open the blinds.

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    1. Hmmm…we sound similar. I’m not surprised. 😉🥰😉

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