Extra Scoop of Grace

I’ve taken my own advice over the past day or so, limiting my overall media consumption from a self-care standpoint.

My professional life has taken the forefront as I’ve offered care and resources to colleagues, clients, former students, friends and family members regarding the outcome of the Presidential election here in the U.S.

If I haven’t commented on the heartfelt posts I’ve seen or if I’ve missed a call or an email, please don’t be offended. I’ve been tending to dear ones in my world and as I’ve caught my breath, I realized I needed to turn some attention to myself. In doing so, I thought a reminder about a few strategies might be helpful to you as well – or someone you care for.

In being selective about where I focus my attention, I recommend this article which summarizes many of the tips and strategies I endorse for dealing with post-election emotions.

My Top Four Tips Overall? Here They Are:

  • Know you’re not alone:  Make coping strategies a priority. I love the recommendation from psychologist and author Harry Cohen who suggests extending an “extra scoop of grace to those having a difficult time.” Yes, indeed. Make mine a double.
  • Use happy, healthy distractions:  Lean into simple self-care strategies such as spending time outside, exercising, connecting with friends who are supportive. Lean into your routine — especially restorative practices such as journaling, meditation, quiet walks. Volunteering? Stay busy by helping others and keeping your focus on the ‘greater good’. Also highly recommended. Simple kindnesses mean so much…but avoid overscheduling and overwhelming yourself.
  • Consider your media intake, take a break from news and social media. Remember you are entitled to quiet spaces, sacred spaces for contemplation and renewal.
  • Reach out for care: For some, talking to a mental health professional might be necessary. Informal networks of support are wonderful, but remembering to refer and encourage those in need to professional support is important, too. Example? The Trevor Project, supporting LGBTQIA+ youth reported a nearly 200% increase this week in conversation topics related to the election across its crisis services. Persons with disabilities and their families, immigrants and other vulnerable populations are fearful and in need of support, too.

Mental Health Resources in the U.S.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

If you or someone you know is in emotional distress or a suicidal crisis, you can reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988. You can also chat with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline here.

The National Alliance on Mental Illness HelpLine

For more information about mental health care resources and support, The NAMI HelpLine can be reached Monday through Friday, 10 a.m.–10 p.m. ET, at 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or email at info@nami.org.

The Trevor Project

For LGBTQIA+ youth looking for free, confidential crisis support, call 1-866-488-7386, text ‘START’ to 678-678 or visit their website to chat with a gender-affirming and queer-friendly counselor. 

Veterans’ Crisis Line

Call 988 then press 1, text 838255 or chat online here

Substance abuse support

Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous have resources on their website, including virtual meetings. 

SAMHSA’s National Helpline for mental and/or substance use disorders can be reached at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).


With love and respect,

Vicki 💝


Hi – I’m Victoria, Vicki, Dr. Vicki. I hold a doctorate in Adult Education and I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), and author of Surviving Sue | Eckhartz Press.



47 responses to “Extra Scoop of Grace”

  1. All good, Vicki What needs to be added is that recovery.must lead, necessarily and essentially, to doing our part in opposition to the plans and direction we voted against and our strongest support for the plans we worked for and voted for.

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    1. Perfectly put, Dr. Stein. Agree, agree. Thank you. 💝

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  2. You offer solid options and resources, Vickie. Thank you.

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    1. Thank you so much, Mary. 💕

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  3. Excellent and much needed post for many, many, many people, Vicki. Much of the world, certainly those of other liberal democracies, share your shock, heartbreak, and fear for the future. 🥲💕

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    1. Thank you, Jane. You summarized so well. Shock and fear for the future. Yes. Much love to you. 💕

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  4. Great advice – and once you find your balance again, work toward change

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  5. Good point about giving yourself grace as we process the mess we’re now in. I have no idea who I’ll be going forward but I’m not rushing into any knee-jerk reactions. The list of resources is a nice addition to this post.

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    1. I like your point, Ally. Time, grace — for ourselves — to find a way forward. I feel that. Finding my way. ❤️ xo

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  6. You’re such a kind and giving person Vicki. Always worried about others. And yes, some great advice.

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    1. That’s very kind of you to say, Brian. So glad we’re friends. ❤️

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      1. Make sure you’re taking time for yourself too Vicki! It’s a lot to take in!

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        1. Big hugs…big hugs! 🥰

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  7. Your tips are good advice for any week of the year!

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    1. You are SO right about that. Thanks much, dear Elizabeth! ❤️

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  8. I feel your generous love and kindness reaching out to so many. xxoo C

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    1. Hugs right back at you, Cheryl. xo! 💕

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  9. Thank you for this post, Vicki. I love your tips especially the one about “consider your media intake, take a break from news and social media.” This one is very important in my opinion.

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    1. Thank you so much, Edward. Grateful to you for your support and kindness. ❤️

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    Thanks for sharing all these wonderful resources, Dr. Vicki. We must have solutions for anyone struggling with mental health. Just knowing that someone else cares and that we have someone to talk with makes a huge difference.

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    1. Thank you, Pete. Your caring heart is a gift and a blessing to many. Big hugs! ❤️

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  11. Vicki, thank you for these suggestions and links to resources. So helpful in this difficult week. I’m working on a similar post, and I’m going to link to your post — since it’s so valuable to have a supportive network 🤗🤗🤗

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    1. So grateful to know you, Dave. Thank you. ❤️

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      1. I’ll repeat those words back to you: I’m grateful to know you, and for the kindness that you put into the world.

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        1. Smiling – so big! Thank you, Dave. ☀️🥰☀️

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  12. […] more suggestions, check out Dr. Vicki’s post “Extra Scoop of Grace,” as well as resources for mental […]

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  13. Thank you for these wonderful tips, Vicki, and please take care of you too. Hugs 🥰

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    1. Thank you so much, Lauren. ❤️

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  14. Excellent resources and insight – Love the other V

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    1. Hugs, hugs, hugs ❤️❤️❤️

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  15. Sending hugs Vicki. I am just on my way home from a short trip to San Diego and from my chats with my American friends while I was there, I join them (and you) in disbelief and despair of the outcome. So much fear and anxiety!

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    1. Sending love and hugs to you, my friend. Safe travels. Appreciate you! xo!

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  16. Your words are taken to heart and all of your ideas are so helpful, Vicki. So many I know are distancing themselves from the T.V. including myself. I even had clients feel to “flattened” to some see me. “finding their feet they would say”. It’s been surreal. Sending a hug and love💕

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    1. “Finding their feet”…yes. I hear you about that, Cindy. Sending hugs and love back to you! Thank you so much. 🥰❤️🥰

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  17. Strong advice. Thank you.

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  18. Thank you for sharing these tips, Vicki. I agree that cutting media consumption is a big and helpful one. I deleted Twitter after Musk bought it and one of the best decisions ever.

    It’s going to be a bumpy four years ahead but we will all get through it and through kindness and connection, including with our own inner selves.

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    1. I don’t know if you’ve heard this enough, dear Ab, but you have a voice of reason that’s so calming. Yep. Bumpy, but we know what we need to do. Thank you for being you! 💕

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