Don’t Whine

Margaret Atwood offered fabulous advice for writers fourteen years ago and I missed it.

Thank goodness for the almighty algorithms that serve nuggets of wisdom. I don’t know how that happens. Sometimes I like it, but other times? It definitely feels invasive…seeing something in my social media feed which addresses a complaint – unuttered – that I’ve tussled with.

But I’ll leave the concern about algorithmic eyes aside for the moment, because I want to share a couple of things from Atwood that left me laughing…crying. From recognition, yes. As if she’d crawled in and knew just what to say to moi.

Here are two segments from Atwood’s “Rules for Writers”. (Italicized words in bold – for emphasis – are mine. Notes of deep recognition and/or hilarity. Margaret Atwood knows me?)

You most likely need a thesaurus, a rudimentary grammar book, and a grip on reality. This latter means: there’s no free lunch. Writing is work. It’s also gambling. You don’t get a pension plan. Other people can help you a bit, but essentially you’re on your own. Nobody is making you do this: you chose it, so don’t whine.


You can never read your own book with the innocent anticipation that comes with that first delicious page of a new book, because you wrote the thing. You’ve been backstage. You’ve seen how the rabbits were smuggled into the hat.

Thank you to those who’ve asked about my latest Project. (Note: The capital “P” is given out of respect. An homage to the gargantuan amount of time it’s taking to move it along.) I’m getting there and Atwood’s advice made me smile and nod, with the reminder that humor fuels me better than anything else. Even cookies.

If you’re a writer trying to make headway, I’ll leave you with a final gem from Atwood:

Don’t sit down in the middle of the woods. If you’re lost in the plot or blocked, retrace your steps to where you went wrong. Then take the other road…

Been there! The middle of the woods is no place for me.

Sending hugs,

Vicki 😉


Margaret Atwood

Margaret Atwood’s 10 Rules For Writing Fiction  – Writers Write

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75 responses to “Don’t Whine”

  1. Good advice from someone who learned it the hard way. Thanks, Vicki.

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    1. Thanks much, Dr. Stein! 🥰

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  2. Thank you for sharing Victoria 🥰
    Sage advice from Margaret Attwood 👏👏

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    1. Maggie…thank you! I’m glad you connect with Atwood’s wisdom, too! xo! 🥰

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      1. I did Victoria 🥰 xo
        Have a great week 🙏

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        1. You, too Maggie! 🥰🥰🥰

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  3. There’s no writer better placed for listening to their advice than Margaret Atwood. And it sounds like your Project is truly coming along. What a wonderful feeling. I hope you’re going to allow yourself a few down days to enjoy Christmas with your family, Vicki. 💕🎄

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    1. Thank you, Jane. You’re crawling into my head/heart. Yes! As much as I want to finish, finish, finish, holiday time will slow things down. For the most excellent reasons. Big hugs and holiday love to you and yours! 🥰💕🥰

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      1. Right back at you, Vicki! 😊💕

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  4. she is so brilliant and a great inspiration for all of us – glad you found this again and shared it

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    1. Thanks, Beth. I love smart people who make me giggle…and hmm…sounds like you! xo! 🥰

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      1. aw, too kind and back at you

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  5. “Nobody is making you do this. You chose it. Don’t whine.” That could be life’s motto! I choose to accept Monday. I’ll leave the whining at home this week

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    1. I mean…I’ll try if you try…to avoid the whining. 🥰😜🥰 Deal!

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  6. Great advice. I definitely need reminded about not whining. “Nobody is making you do this: you chose it, so don’t whine.” I have a habit of sometimes complaining about this path we’ve chosen. That’s kind of what I was trying to get across in my post on Friday. It was fun to be reminded that to be a writer is a blessing. It can be hard, but it can still be, well …… fun! Love how your post is shorter and gets to the point! Love it Vicki!

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    1. Shorter and gets to the point! Ah…words I could (and should) live by! Thanks, Brian. I think we’re in the thick of it together and I appreciate all that you share about your process. Cheers to sticking with it! 🥰🥰🥰

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  7. Oh my, I’ve got to get out of the middle of the woods as well! Thanks for the nudge/shove, Margaret and Vicki!

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    1. You’re welcome, Joy! If you find me wandering it’ll be my lucky day. Xo! 🥰😉🥰

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  8. Ahh! Margaret Atwood. A Canadian gem who knows where it’s at! I love the big about knowing how the bunnies got into the hat. 😂

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    1. Yes! A Canadian gem, for sure! Thanks, Michelle! 🐇 🥰🐇

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  9. Great advice. Thanks for sharing. Yes, I’m lost in the middle of the woods right now.

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    1. You’ve got company, does that help? 🥰❤️🥰

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      1. Yes, it does help. I’ve set it aside until after Christmas. I have too much to do and can’t focus.

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        1. I think that’s a smart move! Good, good! 🥰

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  10. This is so good! I love that Atwood reminds us about the power of choice. And I love how you bring in your Project as a way to show us how. So inspirational!

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    1. And I love that you got the “P” is for Project giggle. Yes…Atwood’s fab, for sure. xo, Wynne! 🥰

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  11. Thank you so much for sharing this invaluable post with continuous ways to get through the woods, Vicki. You always inspire! 💗

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    1. Ah! You’re making me smile! Thank you so much, Cindy! 🥰

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  12. Although I’m not a big Atwood fan, these are nuggets to remember.

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  13. Yes, “Writing is work.”, but I believe the payoff can be great in so many wonderful ways! Thanks for the gentle nudge and encouragement!

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    1. Thank you, Mary! 🥰❤️🥰

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    So good—You’ve been backstage. You’ve seen how the rabbits were smuggled into the hat.

    Lost in the forest. I’ve been there a few times. Though I haven’t had any real serious bites on my manuscript, I’m still proud of myself for trying. I read my latest draft to my seniors at assisted living. They enjoyed it, which made the experience worthwhile.

    If I remember correctly, you’re writing fiction with your current project. If you’re like me, it’s a steep learning curve.

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    1. I love that you read your manuscript to your senior group. Thank you for sharing that – so sweet! And yes! Writing fiction is a big, new frontier! 😉🥰😉

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  15. Your label as “gems” for Atwood’s advice is such an apt one. Short, to the point, and resounding with good and sparkling sense. 💎

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    1. You’re poetic in your comment! Thank you, Dave! 🥰

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  16. Such wise advice, Vicki, and I’m glad it’s giving you the motivation to find your way through the woods, even if it means retracing your steps to find new footing. Good luck with your Project and hope the holidays brings you renewed energy to plow through the pages.

    I’m also glad to see Atwood find a renaissance with the new generation! As an aside, a personal story. I worked a fundraiser event for work once and she was a guest. I think she had a bit to drink and I’ll never forget her coming up to me a bit tipsy and asked, “Have you seen my husband?” 😆 Hopefully she got out of the woods that evening!

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    1. You are such a great encourager! And…what a fun – and memorable – encounter with Atwood. I believe…she would enjoy a good party!
      Xo, Ab! 🥰😉🥰

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  17. I literally had a light bulb moment just a few days ago, Vicki, as I stood in the middle of those woods. A small beam of sun came through, and I knew what to do. I’m so happy that the Project is moving forward for you (and quickly, even if it doesn’t feel that way 😊.) There has been much Progress. Yay for Margaret Atwood! ❤️

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    1. Yay for you and your always valuable insights and encouragement, dear Melanie! Including the capital “P” for Progress! Xo! 🥰❤️🥰

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  18. 😉 and the next one will be Publish. 🥰

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    1. Ohhh! I know you’re several States away, but did you hear me just now? A literal LOL. I love it…and you! 🥰❤️🥰

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  19. 😂😂😂😂 Thanks, Vicki, and love you too! 🥰🥰

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  20. 😂 My goodness, those were good, Vicki. Well… “Surviving Sue” has arrived, and I’m looking forward to January 1st and the “innocent anticipation that comes with that first delicious page.”

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    1. Oh, Edward! Thank you so much for enjoying this post and for reading “Surviving Sue”. Grateful! 🥰

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      1. You’re very welcome, Vicki. I just need to remember to take the book with me to next year’s Printers Row Lit Fest and get it signed by the author. 😉

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        1. I’m smiling! Thanks so much, Edward. 🥰😉🥰

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  21. What wonderful advice from Margaret Atwood, Vicki, and a great reminder! I’ve been lost in the woods many times. LOL And I love this..”humor fuels me better than anything else. Even cookies.” I agree, but cookies are pretty darn close! 🥰 I can’t wait to read your finished project! ❤️ ✨

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    1. Thanks for the morning smile, Lauren! I’m with you…cookies are pretty fab motivators. Soothers, even. Big hugs to you for all of your support and encouragement. xo! 🥰

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  22. I swear by OneLook. Not only is it a thesaurus, it’s a reverse dictionary, too. Ooh! Ahh! I’ve been using it for years and it has been a life saver! (Life ring, life belt, life buoy, life vest, safeguard, bail-out…see what I mean?!) https://www.onelook.com/thesaurus/

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    1. Oh hey! Thanks for that. Never heard of it! 🥰

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      1. I use it regularly. (Frequently, consistently, continuously.) See??

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  23. Love this clever reminder Victoria. Honey chile, no sitting in the middle of the road for me either! I still have my collegiate dictionary from 1977 and my other dictionaries, along with my Thesaurus are right on my bookshelf. Great advice you shared from Margaret Atwood. Thank you! 🙏🏼📚💖😎✍🏼

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    1. Adore you! Yes…using all the tools and reeling in all the advice. Thank you for being you! 🥰❤️🥰

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      1. And my dear Vickie, you are some kind of wonderful too my friend. Enjoy the rest of your evening my dear. Continue to soar! 🐱‍🏍🤗🦅

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        1. Love that! You, too! 🥰❤️🥰

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  24. Great advice thank you ❤️

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    1. Thank you, Kathleen! Nice to meet you. 🥰

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  25. Vicki! These quotes hit me squarely on the jaw! So true and I needed to hear it because I am “maybe” starting my next Project with a capital P – XOV

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    1. Ohhhhh!!! I need to hear more about THAT! Yay! I’ll be your #1 cheerleader — go, Vickie, go! 🥰❤️🥰

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  26. Great advice and post. Love the middle if the woods one too.

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    1. Thank you so much! 😊

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  27. […] Truth right there. In the piece I’m working on, my “Project” with a capital “P”, music holds a place in the story in a subtle way. References to the Carpenters “Close to You”, […]

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