A Gratitude Two-Fer šŸ’

First – a gentle reminder:

If you’re in the Chicago area…I’d love to see you at Harper College, courtesy of The Cultural Arts Committee, when I read from “Surviving Sue” this coming Thursday, November 6 from 11am – 12:15 pm.

Second – a gratitude story:

I’m ever grateful to my blogging friends for their camaraderie. Last week the talented Beth Kennedy offered a compelling observation about artistry and artists, writing a thoughtful piece – Palette. In our exchange of comments, Beth (a deep reader of “Surviving Sue”) offered a humdinger of insight. Here’s the convo:

Me – Commenting about Beth’s post:

I discovered some of Sue’s unfinished canvases over the weekend. I don’t think I’ll be the painter to finish them, but you never know!

Beth – In reply:

Oh, Vicki. This could be such an interesting project. the unfinished paintings and you help to complete your mom’s work, or show them left as undone, as we are all works in progress. they would be a great example of that, but also, I think you were always trying to help your mom to be a complete person in some ways.

My reply to Beth:

I LOVE all of this, Beth! You’re giving me ideas…and your insight about trying to help Sue…even when it was difficult. Yes, yes! Love you. I’ll need to pull one canvas in particular…maybe blog worthy. Sending big hugs.

I had a particular canvas in mind when I replied to Beth, thinking about Sue’s unfinished projects. (My mom was an adept artist, and I wrote about her painting a thank you gift for me once upon a time. Take a peek. I’ll wait for you here.)

I hadn’t spelunked in Sue’s artwork – finished or otherwise – for years, but the day before Beth posted “Palette“, I stumbled over some of Sue’s canvases. Intending to paint pets – neighborhood pups and cats – Sue became frustrated, exclaiming, “They’re terrible posers!” I never asked how she attempted to wrangle pets into submission, but my mind wandered. I hoped she hadn’t abducted them. Unsurprisingly, she never finished this painting:

If you look closely, you can see the bones of the painting. Outlines where Sue intended to add critters left and right – flanking the threesome in the center.

Our sweet daughter, Delaney, has some of Sue’s artistic skills, so she might be game to finish this piece and I love the idea. I also adore Beth for her observation.

Sue continues to be present in our lives in many ways, thanks to the lovely response to my book and it makes sense to pick up a palette to see her artwork to completion. A full-circle moment, and one I’ll be grateful to receive. Just like the opportunity to read from “Surviving Sue” at Harper College this week. A gratitude two-fer, for sure!

Vicki šŸ’

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104 responses to “A Gratitude Two-Fer šŸ’”

  1. Vicki, I’m glad that my comment resonated with you, it just made sense to me after reading your book and gaining an understanding of the relationship between you and your mother, sue. how wonderful if this painting might be the one that might connect your daughter, Delaney, with. her grandmother, Sue, and their shared talent for art.

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    1. Grateful to you, Beth! Your comment is one of the reasons why this journey with Sue continues…so many connections to make, ways to understand. Thank you, dear one! šŸ’šŸ˜ŠšŸ’

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      1. the people who play an important role in our lives, whether easy or challenging, do not end when they leave this earth, as we continue to see and learn

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        1. Ahhh…perfectly put! Yes. Thank you, Beth! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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    2. Well done, Beth! Thanks for suggesting this to Vicki Lou!

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  2. Ah yes! Pets and kids are indeed terrible posers. It would be wonderful if Delaney could bring some of Sue’s artwork to fruition. šŸ¤ž

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    1. Xo, Michelle! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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  3. Sue’s painting of your home and her note – reaching out – brought tears to my eyes. (Those times we all try to reach out 🄹).
    It must be difficult in deciding whether to leave the unfinished painting of the pets (fascinating as it already is) or whether to add to it. I wonder what Sue would have said? 🄰

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    1. Thank you so much for popping over to read the other post and see one of Sue’s finished paintings, Margaret. I wonder, too — what she’d think about Delaney finishing her ā€œpet paintingā€. Sue adored her granddaughter…I can’t help but guess she’d be delighted. Appreciate you, my friend. Xo! ā¤ļø

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      1. Oh yes, I see it too. How encouraging to see these important connections continue after ā€˜physical’ death, Vicki. 🄰

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        1. Yes! My thoughts, too! Sending big hugs to you! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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  4. I’ve finished two quilts my great grandmother started. They certainly drew me into wondering more about her earlier life. Working on a project over generations is an interesting experience.

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    1. I love that, Joy! Perfect examples. So good! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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  5. What wonderful insight from Bethā¤ļø
    Best wishes for the 6th Vicki xo
    I look forward to reading how that goes.

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    1. Xo, dear Maggie! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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      1. Vicki ā¤ļøšŸ’•ā¤ļø
        Tots of jellies to you xo

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        1. Yum! Got em! šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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          1. Yayy šŸ„°šŸ’•šŸ„°

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  6. In a way we all finish what was started by those who came before us. Sometimes we finish what we were before what we are now. Either way, it is seldom that we start from a blank canvas. It would be interesting to see what you or your daughter could;d do with that, your interpretation of what once was.

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    1. Love your thoughts, Michael – thank you so much! True, true, this: “…it is seldom we start from a blank canvas…”
      Big hugs to you this morning! 🄰

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        1. 🄰😊🄰

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  7. Most of all, I love that you found gratitude in the midst of it all. Beautiful.

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    1. Love your comment, David! Feeling seen and heard…appreciate you! šŸ’

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  8. A gratitude two-fer. I love it and I’m grateful for this post which makes it at least a three-fer or three-fur to match the painting. What an interesting insight about your role in Sue’s life. So grateful to be part of this community. I’ll be with you in spirit on Thursday! ā¤ ā¤ ā¤

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    1. 🄰 So good — your ā€œthree-furā€ thought! You’re amazing, dear Wynne! 🄰

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  9. I wish I was in the Chicago area. I would attend your reading in a heartbeat!! I caught Joy’s comment about “working on a project over generations.” That just conjures up something amazing in me. It’s a rare opportunity. Of course Delaney should do it (if she’s interested) for the strong bond it would build. She was able to see and complete Sue’s vision. That would make me feel great if I was in that position. Thanks for the inspirational post, Vicki! xo šŸ’•

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    1. I wish you were physically near, too, my Melanie sister friend! Love your call out to Joy’s comment! With you…generational projects. Speaks to me!
      šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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      1. Someday, maybe…at Walker Brothers! 😊And think if you planned a generational project – my head is going to explode! The possibilities! ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø

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        1. I’m smiling SO BIG! Yes…your “Chicago” is showing…name dropping Walker Brothers. 😜 Now I want an apple pancake! LOL!
          But you’re not wrong. The possibilities…wowza. You and I on the loose, creating, spinning generational stories for greater good…starting with ourselves? Yes, please! šŸ’šŸ„°šŸ’

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          1. Creative minds on the loose; how great! I feel that. Thanks for unleashing ideas and common goals. xoxoxo 🄰🄰

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            1. Thank you for your fabulous enthusiasm and great ideas. xo! šŸ„°šŸ’šŸ„°

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  10. Oh how I love your Gratitude Two-Fer Vicki! šŸ’– I wish I could be in Chicago, but we’re sending you positive vibes from afar, because I know you’re gonna do spectacular with your presentation to your adoring audience my friend. Much love coming your way my dear! šŸ˜˜šŸ’žšŸ„‚

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    1. You…dear Kym! You just put a big grin on my face. Thank you for your kindness, always, and your positivity. Sending you loads of love! šŸ„°šŸ’šŸ„°

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      1. My arms are open to receive that luscious load of love you’re transmitting Vicki. šŸ’žšŸ„°šŸ’– So proud of you my dear friend. Continue to soar! šŸ¦…

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        1. Mwah! šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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  11. This is beautiful Vicki. It would be lovely to see a joint effort/artwork by grandmother/granddaughter. Im sure it would be very special

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    1. I think so, too! Thank you so much, Brenda. I’m waving in your direction and sending big hugs! šŸ’šŸ„°šŸ’

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      1. Waving back, Vicki. Hope you’re well 😁😘

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        1. Yes, yes! Hugs to you! šŸ’šŸ„°šŸ’

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  12. Wow! I enjoyed the conversation you had with Beth. Plus your post about about the thank you gift. At lease your mom was aware that she could be difficult and she apologized. I would love to see what your daughter does with the painting of pets.

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    1. Thank you, Elizabeth! I agree…Beth’s insights were amazing. Promise to keep you posted about the painting!
      Xo! šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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  13. “A full-circle” and heartwarming moment, dear Vicki. Thank you for sharing the inspiring conversation between you and Beth. I love and admire how you flow fluidly and creatively with others. šŸ’žšŸŽØšŸ‘šŸ»

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    1. What a beautifully kind thing to say, Michele. I see that exact quality in you! Sending big hugs! šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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      1. Thank you so much and big hugs to you, too! šŸ„°ā¤ļø

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  14. Vicki, what a great idea to add to – and complete – this painting. And, to have your daughter take the wheel in finishing its delayed journey is even more special. This reminds me of some oil paintings we have in our family from a relative who made (and completed) them some 75 years ago. It was determined they would always stay in our family. They would never fetch much money on the open market…they are priceless to us. Enjoy the Harper reading, Vicki!

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    1. Thank you, Bruce – for all of your good wishes. I love your words, “delayed journey” with a family artifact. Special and priceless. Yes! šŸ’šŸ„°šŸ’

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  15. What a wonderful observation by Beth, and everyone commenting, too! You mom always came across as such a work-in-progress (though, aren’t we all?), so I love the idea of the unfinished painting symbolizing the person behind them. Wow! You’re going to rock the book reading, and I’ll be there in spirit cheering you on! 🄰

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    1. Awww…thanks so much, Erin. I love that you love the symbolism of the painting, too. Yup! Good golly. Yup! Works in progress. Sending big hugs to you, my friend. (for Dr. Zeus, too, of course!) xo! šŸ„°šŸ’šŸ„°

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  16. I am sure you are aware, Vicki, that you have given Sue, some of the recognition and attention she desired. Immortality in a way. More than most of us will have, depending.

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    1. Indeed…I think you’re right. Posthumous attention. Very true. ā¤ļø

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  17. Best wishes with your upcoming event, Vicki!

    And I love the idea of your daughter potentially finishing Sue’s work. Something so beautifully full circle about that, especially knowing the history about your mom and the healing from your daughter!

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    1. Aww! Many thanks, Ab! Appreciate your good wishes and your sweet comment about Sue’s unfinished painting. Xo! 🄰

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  18. So thankful for Beth so that one of Sue’s paintings will come alive. I saw how Sue painted your beautiful home. Incredible!
    I am sending lots of virtual paints, colors and brushes Delaney’s way. Have fun girls!

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    1. Nancy Lou! Love you oodles. Thank you so much. Your comment makes me smile! šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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      1. Always my dear Vicki Lou! Smiles all around! šŸ™‚šŸ™‚šŸ™‚

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  19. “Surviving Sue” such like an incredible read. The mother-daughter relationship is not an easy one, that I struggle to navigate some times.

    All the best on November 6th!

    Blessings!

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    1. Many thanks!!! šŸ˜‰

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  20. I really appreciate Beth’s observations and ability to see things in nature and life that many of us overlook. It really is her superpower. I love the idea of you or your daughter contributing to Sue’s piece. Why not all three of you? Now, that would make a great story! Three generations working on the same piece of art!

    Best of luck with your reading at Harper College. If I recall, you have some connection to that school. Studied or taught there?

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    1. Love your comments, Pete! Thank you so much. You’re right. Maybe I should challenge myself to contribute to completing Sue’s artwork – with Delaney’s help. Great idea! And thank you for your terrific memory. Yes, yes. I both studied and taught there, served as an administrator. Appreciate you, as always, my friend! šŸ„°šŸ’šŸ„°

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  21. I wish I could come and attend your reading, but we have family stuff going on
    also, wanted to mention that the art piece you chose to show us from Sue, even if unfinished – it has a great energy and I woudl leave it as is. Or not…. but there is something whsipy and light about this – hmmm

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    1. Yvette…you are so sweet. Thank you! One day…we’re gonna have a big blogging convention. Pull all of the writer friends together. What fun, right? And thank you for your fabulous thought about Sue’s artwork…wispy, whimsy…leaving it as is. I think there’s great merit in that idea, too. Sending big Monday morning hugs to you! šŸ„°šŸ’šŸ„°

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      1. well it is a hard decision make, to finish the pieces or leave them.
        This reminded me of a time when we were looking at paintings from our attic. (I taught elementary art for five years and really enjoyed it… it was while in grad school and still also in mom mode) anyhow, my boys mad a lot of art because they helped me sometimes make samples for new themes or to connect to standards of learning –
        anyhow, my son made this painting that started with horizon line, it has a barge and a huge rock,
        When we pulled it down, I asked him if he wanted to add more to it (it does look a little unfinished but no pencil lines) – and it was cute because I think he made it in 5th grade and now it was 7th grade and he said something about how we need to leave a painting alone because it was what he created back then, what he wanted back then, and needs to stay as is.
        **
        I cannot recall all of what he said, but I admired the way he viewed it and respected the painting as is.
        One more story, I had a few exceptional art students in my classes, those with the natural skills to where they were advanced beyond many lessons – and Taylor was a middle schooler who made this Fram house painting. It had so much texture, perspective, and just loved the colors.
        Well one day, she came to class and stayed late and decided to add more – and Vic, she ruined the painting – it was overdone and we lost the texture and essence.
        sigh.
        and so some of Sue’s paintings might be ideal for having a family member finiish – and you can frame them and have the essence of combined talents – oh yes – but others might need to stay as is…
        hmmm

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        1. Love your perspective from a knowing place as an art teacher and artist yourself, Yvette! Thank you so much. Your encouragement will send me into the “archives” (LOL, the basement) because I know there are other unfinished canvases tucked away. So many options. Sue would be thrilled…no matter what we decide to do, I think. Sending more hugs to you!
          šŸ’šŸ„°šŸ’

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          1. thank for the hugs 0 and sending virtual ones back
            and hope you have a wonderful week
            xxx

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            1. Thank you so much! 🄰

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  22. The painting is beautiful even though it’s still partially finished. How much more soon when it is finish. Lovely post, Victoria!

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    1. Hugs and love to you, Hazel! Thank you so much.
      šŸ’šŸ„°šŸ’

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      1. My pleasure, Victoria. Hugs and love back.

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  23. I loved your conversation with Beth, Vicki, and Sue’s painting is beautiful. It would be wonderful and special if Delaney finished it, bringing it back to life. I can imagine how pets aren’t the best subjects for portraits. šŸ™‚ And I wish you lots of good luck on Thursday, although you won’t need it. I know the event will be successful and your book will continue to touch many hearts. šŸ’žšŸŒ·

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    1. Sending loads of love to you, Lauren! Thank you so much. xo! šŸ„°šŸ’šŸ„°

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      1. They arrived, Vicki! šŸ¤— And you’re so welcome! Hugs šŸ„°ā¤ļø

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  24. Goodness, what Beth said about us being works in progress. So true! And that comes literally to you with this painting. I wonder if you and Delaney might both work on the painting — three generations contributing to it, each adding your personal touches. That’s quite a project! šŸŒž

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    1. I hear you…it might be a great thing to do…three generations of hands on the piece. Let me say again…your artwork is so fabulous, Dave. So talented. I worry I might royally muck up an otherwise good thing if I dare touch Sue’s canvas. 😜
      And you’re right – Beth’s observations are terrific! šŸ’

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  25. I love the idea of finishing the paintings!šŸ˜Ž

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    1. And the painting of your home with the notešŸ’š

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      1. Awww….thank you! šŸ’

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    2. Yay! I think this really needs to happen. Appreciate you, Todd! šŸ’

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  26. What a thoughtful and intuitive comment by Beth! This was so touching of her to say; “we are all works in progress. they would be a great example of that, but also, I think you were always trying to help your mom to be a complete person in some ways.” We are all works-in-progress. And many of us, like you Vicki, were always trying to help our parents become ‘complete’ people – knowing they had so much goodness buried/trapped in them, if only they could find their way… Hugs to you on whatever you choose to do with Sue’s works, and hope your reading at the college goes exactly as you’d like. šŸ’žšŸ’ž

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    1. You are so generous with your kind, knowing words Rose. Thank you! I love how you see all the depth in Beth’s comment. Appreciate you!
      šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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  27. College professor, counselor, memoir writer, fiction author, and now artist. I love it. Go Vicki, go. Ha, ha. I can relate a little. My father used to carve. He has a relief carving where he had chiseled out a praying Jesus. I love the piece for how it’s not complete. There’s a symmetry there. I probably would never touch that. But he also has other pieces where I might some day try my hand at finishing them. We’ll see. As far as Thursday goes, I was hoping to get my Teleporter to work so that I could surprise you. Unfortunately, it’s not seeming to work. Maybe at your next event. We know they’re going to ask you to come back for a return visit!!! Anyway, I’m sending you best wishes. I can’t wait to hear how it was a huge success!!!! Congratulations in advance Vicki! šŸ˜ŽšŸ˜ŽšŸ˜ŽšŸ˜ŽšŸ˜Ž

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    1. Aww!!! I remember!!! Your dad’s carvings. I’d love to know about those other pieces…something magical in things our parents created, left unfinished. And thank you for your enthusiasm and good wishes! You’re the best! šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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  28. I’d love to see you tomorrow, Vicki, but I’m not sure I can make it. I’ve had some health problems. It depends if I can drive.

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    1. Oh, dear one. No worries! I love knowing you’re in the general area. We’ll make a plan to meet up another time. Take good care. ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø

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  29. I love the idea of you finishing what Sue started, Vicki. What a lovely creative collaboration. Art is more about relationship than we think. There is the artist … and the collaborator (sometimes a reader) who completes the piece, adding a unique perspective different from the artist’s. You can do so with paint! Enjoy.

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    1. Diana! Thank you so much…love your point about creative collaboration…it really can defy the supposed limitations of time and space. Deep connections CAN be made. Much love to you!
      šŸ„°ā¤ļøšŸ„°

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  30. Great post, Vicki, and of course your talk today was amazing. It was an honor to be there, hear you read portions of the book, and experience that great interaction with the audience. The time went by way too fast. Awesome job, my friend.

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    1. So honored by your presence, Edward. Truly! Thank you so very much! 🄰

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      1. You’re so welcome, my friend. šŸ«¶šŸ¼

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  31. Wow!!! Such an amazing find! Maybe Delaney can finish it!!!
    I love that you could see through all the hardships of your mom and still find beautiful moments ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø

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    1. We shall see! I know Delaney has the skill to finish it and I agree…such a full circle project, right? xo, dear Vickie! šŸ’

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  32. I hope your daughter decides to finish Sue’s painting someday. Such a lovely idea!

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    1. I hope she does, too! Love you! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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        1. Hugs, hugs, hugs! ā¤ļøšŸ„°ā¤ļø

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