Embrace the Detour

I love a fabulously well-timed quote.

Inspiration arriving in my in-box as I’m editing and working my way to the finish line with my novel. Have you heard this one?

“The backstory isn’t a detour – it’s the past pressing in.”

-Joyvity

Joyvity is a site offering writing tips, one I’d never heard of but the timing of the advice? A little eerie, I must admit.

In my WIP (work-in-progress) there’s a substantial detour, a rewind into a family’s shocking history (inspired by “Surviving Sue”) complete with secrets…ancestral tidbits tucked away under the guise of protection. “You’re better off not knowing, kids…”

We all know how deception plays out in real life. In my magical realism/speculative fiction tale, the truth wriggles its way into the light and in the process, damage is done. Whoa boy. Especially to relationships.

Telling a story which spans generations is challenging and I’ve labored over the backstory. How and when to layer glimpses without giving away the store.

“The past pressing in…”

I like it. And it fits. Judicious reveals peppered here and there. Allowing the past to find its way in, adding depth, while still withholding the biggest reveal. So much harder than it sounds.

Thank you to those of you who’ve asked about the timeline to completion…and for continuing to ride along with me, even though I’ve been less active here on WordPress as a result. The target date is still Mar/April of 2026 and I promise to keep you posted.

Last but not least, in the spirit of taking detours, I’ve got one for you. A sweet reader asked recently “Where are the deer pics?” and I laughed. It’s been a minute, I know, since I posted wildlife photos and I’ve been holding out on you. In the past couple of weeks, we’ve seen a flurry of activity with deer frequenting our backyard, enjoying the last of the apple tree’s bounty. And we’ve got at least two bucks roaming around, looking for love:

From me…and the dear deer…take care!

Vicki 💝

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86 responses to “Embrace the Detour”

  1. The best quote about the past I have ever encountered is, “The past is never dead. It’s not even past,” from William Faulkner’s “Requiem for a Nun.” Good luck with your book, Vicki.

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    1. Oh my goodness….how did you do THAT? That quote…one of my all-time favorites, too. In fact, it’s blinking at me…my cursor on that section of my novel where that exact Faulkner quote appears…the substantial rewind I wrote about in this post. Oh my goodness!
      😊❤️😊

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      1. Oh yes! You, you, you are the BEST at backstories, Joy! xoxoxoxo! ❤️😊❤️

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  2. you just keep on your path, zig-zagging back and forth as needed, baby steps are always my way as you know, and thanks for the deer, dear one. we’ll be here.

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    1. Love ya, Beth! xoxoxoxox! ❤️😊❤️

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  3. Sometimes I feel the biggest reveal is yet to come …..
    “Allowing the past to find its way in, adding depth, while still withholding the biggest reveal. So much harder than it sounds.” …..
    because we don’t yet know what it is. Plus, it feels so important, vital even, to protect ourselves.
    Thank you for your gorgeous “dear deers” 🦌🦌
    Go gently dear Vicki 🥰

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    1. Love your perspective, Margaret! Thank you! Sending love and hugs to you. Grateful for your kindness! ❤️🥰❤️

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  4. That’s a beautiful quote, Vicki. And good luck with the home stretch to your novel’s completion. We look forward to hearing more about it! And the deer photos are always welcomed! 🥰

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    1. Thank you, Ab! Xo! ❤️🥰❤️

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  5. The backstory and deer pics – this post is rich! Love, “Allowing the past to find its way in, adding depth, while still withholding the biggest reveal. ” So good to have that depth and the way it brings understanding. Sending huge hugs as you finish up your incredible project!! ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. You’re the best! Thanks for all the support and encouragement dear (deer?) one! ❤️🥰❤️

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  6. “You’re better off not knowing, kids…”

    Argh…I feel this deeply, Vicki

    There’s so much I’ve had to uncover on my own, in my quest towards integration. And, so much I’ll just never know. I do not think I’m better off for it.

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    1. I hear you, David. I sure do. Thanks for your comment. ❤️❤️❤️

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  7. Great post Vicki, with wonderful deer pictures.

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    1. Thanks, Tim! They stopped by — a sweet twosome a little while ago…they must’ve sensed a moment of fame? Hope you are having a great day! 🥰

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  8. Great quote Vicki ❤️
    I have not heard of that site, I must check it out.
    The deer pics are too cute.
    Thank you for sharing dear one 🥰🤗

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    1. Love you, Maggie! ❤️🥰❤️

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      1. Vicki xo
        Love you too ❤️🥰❤️

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        1. !!!❤️🥰❤️!!!

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  9. Oh, no fair Vicki. Giving us some juicy tidbits, but not saying any more. It sounds like an amazing WIP Vicki. It sounds so authentic. Love that, it means that it’s just going to get better. “In my magical realism/speculative fiction tale, the truth wriggles its way into the light and in the process, damage is done. Whoa boy. Especially to relationships.” I can’t wait to read more. Sounds like you’re making great progress. Go you.

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    1. You are my #1 champion Brian! Thanks for sticking with me…tolerating the updates that aren’t very detailed. Can’t wait to share more!!!! ❤️🥰❤️

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  10. Vicki, that quote – wow. I had to let it sink in, as it’s powerful. I know what you mean about backstories. As a storyteller I find myself backtracking all the time to get grounded in the story. Well, to let others get grounded in the story. I just finished a blog post on a big community event, but found myself starting at the beginning when we moved here, and how things have evolved. You know, the backstory. Apologies for my long, winded comment.

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    1. Jennie! I love your comment – you recognize the importance, the power of the backstory. I can absolutely see that in you…craving depth, wanting to know more, share more. I think it’s part of your magnetic appeal, dear one. So grateful to be in your orbit, Jennie! ❤️😊❤️

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      1. Aww… that’s so nice! You know me well! Many thanks, Vicki. 💕

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        1. Much love, Jennie! ❤️😊❤️

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          1. Much love to you, Vicki! 😍

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            1. !!!❤️🥰❤️!!!

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  11. The past pressing in is a such a great way to view backstory… as if it’s present and needs to butt in just a little for the rest of the story to make sense. I love that! Good luck in the final stretch! And the deer pictures are always such a welcomed treat! 🥰

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    1. LOL! Yes…need to butt in just a bit. You’ve got a way with words, my friend! xoxoxo! And the deer say hello…they’ve been around a lot this afternoon! ❤️😊❤️

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      1. 😊❤️

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  12. Nothing gets in you way, dear Vicki, nothing. Someone you trust suggested some partial changes to tie a couple of sections together, and here you are doing it. Head down, keeping on deadline, deep focus. You’re incredible; I mean it. I might put it on the back burner until I’m feeling it again. We spoke very briefly once on the topic, and I can not WAIT! I’ll be here ready to read an offer a review. And I adore the deer! ❤️❤️

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    1. Good golly! A sweet comment from you is like a rocket booster of motivation! Woohoo! Yup…I’ll keep at it…and I think I’m just about ready to turn it over to my publisher friends. Appreciate you so much, Melanie! Can’t wait for you to read. This is such a “proof of concept” endeavor for me. Feels like a test, LOL! Much love, much love! ❤️❤️❤️

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  13. Oh, that’s excellent news that it will soon be with the publisher. You have a lot of fans out here in WordPress World! It will be a “test” you pass easily. Yay! 🥰

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    1. You are soooo lovely! Thank you! Xo!
      ❤️🥰❤️

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  14. Thanks for the deer pics. So cute! And I admit I’m intrigued by your novel. I can’t wait to read it. 🤗

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    1. Ohhhh! Thank you! I’m worried I’ll bore everyone on the way to the finish line! Appreciate you, Michelle! ❤️🥰❤️

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  15. Backstory is so hard! I think you are on the right track though, little bits inserted as needed. Less is more they say. Sometimes I’ve found you have to write the back story to get it all down and out there. Then find the gems, and cut the rest (but save what you’ve cut in case you need to refer to it again) At least that’s been my experience with the novel I’m working on now. Can’t tell you how many back-stories I ended up cutting! But I’m glad I wrote them. They helped me understand better where the characters were coming from. All the best to you, my friend! We’ll get this done!!

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    1. You are so generous with your thoughtful comment, Deborah. Thank you! I think you could teach a master class in building a compelling story, layering meaningful details! And knowing what to cut, what to keep. Oh…so much to learn! Big hugs! Appreciate you. ❤️🥰❤️

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      1. You’re so sweet! I’m newer to this than you are! But it’s fun learning together with other writers! Love you!

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        1. Smiling so big!!! Xo! Love you, too! 🥰

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  16. Vicki, we haven’t seen any deer in our parts for a little bit, so it was nice to “catch up” with some here. The backstory helps tell the whole story, so it certainly plays its part!

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    1. Thank you, Bruce! “The backstory helps tell the whole story”…love the way you said that! And a couple of early morning deer, visiting here at our deck, say hello! 🥰😉🥰

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  17. I can’t imagine the challenge of peppering backstory through a story that spans generations – and the end is in sight! And I guess you have deers wandering around in the same way we have kangaroos.

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  18. I am glad you are plugging along. But distractions make for a better story. And you know me I love pictures so I was happy to see the dear deer!
    Love you, Vicki Lou! 🥰

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    1. You are such a skillful artist with your photos — nature pics and gorgeous interior design vignettes, Nancy Lou! Thank you for the smile this morning! Much love! ❤️🥰❤️

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  19. Excellent deer pics!😍🤩 Looking forward to spring even though I’m a big winter fan 😎📕

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    1. Thank you, Todd! ❤️😎❤️

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  20. I like to think of the backstory as the skeleton for the main story. You need it to make the whole thing function.

    Your premise, the little bit you’ve shared anyway, sounds intriguing!

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    1. I like that! The skeleton…the backbone! Thanks, Mark! ❤️🥰❤️

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  21. That is a fabulous quote! Thank you for sharing along with your engaging writing, Dr. Vicki. Best wishes with your novel. 👏🏻 How wonderful that those beautiful deer are in your backyard! A lovely week to you. 💗

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    1. Right back to you, dear Michele! I’ll tell the deer you said hello! 😊❤️😊

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  22. I love the quote and the detour to the deer. Vicki’s WIP is going to stay on my 2026 reading list as a placeholder until I can replace it with the real title. Super excited for you, my friend.

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    1. You…are so deer/dear Edward! Thank you! ❤️🥰❤️

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      1. You’re so welcome, my friend. 🫶🏼

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  23. That quote is new to me, but I love it, Vicki. I also love these lines:

    “Allowing the past to find its way in, adding depth, while still withholding the biggest reveal. So much harder than it sounds.”

    I’m sure it’s super hard! It’s so exciting to know that you’re inching closer and closer to the finish line. Take your time and focus because there are many of us who can’t wait to read your novel. The deer pics are beautiful too. They stroll up and down our street also, and they’re just so elegant. Sending you hugs for best wishes as you persevere. ❤️ 🥰 xoxo

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    1. Aww! Thank you, Lauren! Elegant — yes! Such a perfect word to describe the deer. Appreciate your encouragement about my project! ❤️🥰❤️

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      1. It’s my pleasure, Vicki! You’re so inspiring! Hugs and love to you! 😍🤗

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        1. Oh my! Right back to you! ❤️🥰❤️

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  24. LOVE the DEAR, DEER pictures – you literally have a Zoo – I will always follow you, Deer (😉)Vicki – no matter how often you post! XOV

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    1. Can you hear me giggling? I am! You are such a love, DEAR DEER Vickie! Sending big hugs to you…and of course all my love to sweet Jessica. xo! ❤️😊❤️

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  25. Hello and it sounds like the backstory is coming along – and I can understand the challenge with it.

    Regarding detours, I once attended a ladies small group (in 2002 – wow – so long ago now) and one of the nights was all about detours as “God appointments” and it has stuck with me.

    Regarding the wonderful deer photos – we had some guests stay with us for three days, a man and his son, and they came to do some deer hunting. However, the dad told me (as he was leaving) that the 80 degree weather in mid-November interfered with their outcome (they left empty handed) – and not sure how you feel about hunting – but he was okay with it – and it warmed my heart when he said he just wanted to spend the time in the fields with his adult son. ahhhh

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    1. How did you do that? 😊I almost added a segment to the post about my cousin Dan and his affinity for deer hunting this time of year and the struggles I experienced as a child – being in his home with deer heads mounted over the fireplace. But…I couldn’t figure out how to write about it without it sounding like a very wayward detour (not enough of a “God appointment” – which I love!) so I chose not to write about hunting/hunters and how precious the deer are…not wanting to offend anyone. I’ve seen so many sweet creatures roadside lately – hit by cars. Literal pain in my heart when I pass them. Hearing from your guest that a choice was made to be in the fields…with his son rather than hunt? Oh my. I appreciate you so much for sharing. Crawling into my head, you are. xo! ❤️

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      1. Vic, that is so spooky cool – because guess what? I almost left that part OUT of my comment. I can get long winded – and well, I do try to leave a meaty comment without overdoing it at times – haha – but I added it and then to see how you almost wrote about that – wow –
        oh and I know what you mean, some topics can really be offensive and we just never know how things come across.

        Oh and I feel the pain for those roadside losses too…

        wishing you a great rest of your week
        🙂

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        1. Yvette….this exchange in comments…so fun! I love that we both hesitated but powered through with our thoughts, sharing just the same. So cool. Spooky cool – yes, yes, yes! And after I read your comment a few minutes ago, I noticed a package on the front step. Your new anthology! Yay! I love it when the world lines up. Just as you said. No detours, just little God appointments and nudges. The universe is amazing. Sending love and hugs back to you! ❤️

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          1. oh wow – you ordered the paperback – so honored. Truly – and a side note, somehow my final versions of the book for print did not have the sections in the TOC – and a reviewer noted that she would have liked to have had the sections designating memoir, fiction, poetry – and so keep that in mind as you dive in. And that is another fun alignment – to have the book arrive as we are chatting this week! (Happy dance)
            and sending some hugs back your way 😉

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            1. Ah…I just took a peek at my copy and I see what you mean, but that wouldn’t slow me down at all. I like starting at the beginning…allowing the experience to unfold in the order the editor (you!) intended. All good! Thank you so much, Yvette. I love the concept – about a “range of voices”. I see so many generational differences in perceptions – about the ‘world of work’. Eager to dive in! xo! ❤️😊❤️

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              1. I am so glad to read this
                and I am a little behind in my promos for the book, we had a big family event this month – but I made a few audio tracks to share about a few things.
                And will just briefly share that the chapter flow is hand selected (as you noted)
                And it really happened on accident – because when I grouped them, I just was starting with Joe’s first (ch 2) and then sherri etc –
                and I ended leaving them in the order they started in – and there is this energy flow I can kind of track.
                Joe’s chapter is VERY causal – and short – so things start with a little pop – then ease into other short chapters – a little humor with paperknife – then chapter 7 is very long – but it needed to be because Mike’s muse led him to share that overview – and it was trimmed to that and felt right.
                Then, Kevin’s fiction is some of the4 best fiction I have read – I just love his cycling stories – and chad’s short fiction is like Joe’s start – a little pop – and eventually we get to chapter 13, and Vic, Prem had me add in a lot more spaces and it made that chapter extra long when done – but as you know – poetry is truly all about word placement and spacing – and so I was glad to try and get it right.
                well! after it was done, and I saw the final draft – chapters 7 and 13 are like wings in the book – long chapters that have harmony in weight and length – even if very different – and then ending with the poems I think was reflective.
                Anyhow, please take your time with it – and looking forward to hearing your thoughts!
                I will also let you know when I get my audio files uplaoded.
                xxxx

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                1. Oooh! Love this insider’s peek into your process! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️🥰❤️

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  26. Detours offer moments to rethink and pause and redirect.

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    1. Indeed! Thank you, Mary! ❤️

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  27. That quote IS really great. Almost sounds like something my mom would’ve told me back in the day of my first writing. 😛

    I’m glad you’ve found a website with inspiration for writers. I should check that out.

    Looking forward to your novel, and those truly are dear deer pics. 😉 ❤

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    1. The more I learn about your mom, the more I like her! xoxoxo 😊❤️😊

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  28. You are so right, Vicki—“so much harder than it sounds!” And all the more satisfying when you find just the right way to go about it! It’s really quite an accomplishment, this writing thing! I am rooting for you and have total confidence in your ability!

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    1. Ohhh! Your power boosts of encouragement are so well-timed! Thank you, dear one!!! ❤️🥰❤️

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      1. I’ve been behind reading your posts, Vicki and I am enjoying them all in a big beautiful banquet today!🎄🍁💕❤️🍁🎄

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        1. I feel so lucky. Truly!!! Thank you so very much, dear Lori. ❤️🥰❤️

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