Power of the Pen

“There are two powers in the world; one is the sword and the other is the pen. There is a great competition and rivalry between the two. There is a third power stronger than both, that of the women.” -Muhammad Ali Jinnah


Something simple and extraordinary happened a few weeks ago.

In our household we no longer receive very many holiday cards and I get it. I stopped sending them a year or two ago and to be honest, I’m not sure why. I enjoy receiving cards and don’t really mind slowing down to select pretty, soothing images reflecting holiday cheer. I think what gave me pause was the haphazardness of not knowing dear one’s physical addresses. I’m not very organized, you see…

Somewhere my oh-so-refined mother-in-law Maxine is sighing. She taught me better – she with the most gorgeous teal and gold tooled address book. It was one of her treasures, keeping her connected with friends and family before digital everything became the norm. You know what I mean – ubiquitous emails, snapchats, IG, WhatsApp and more…no stamps required.

But I can get tough with myself when I need to. When I feel compelled to send a package or, more often it seems, a sympathy or get well greeting. I dive into my messy desk drawer and the sea of saved envelopes (returning address labels save me) as I search for street addresses, house numbers, zip codes.

Yes. Before you ask, I am acquainted with the handy tool known as an Excel spreadsheet, but I find them tedious, much to hubby Paul’s frustration. One too many forays into the land of pivot tables sends me screaming. No, no and no. Thank you.

This post is sounding like a confessional…but stick with me.

This year the flow of in-bound holiday cards chez Atkinson dwindled to zilch in the days before Christmas – nothing in the mail for several days. A few wayward cards arrived around New Year’s, a little rumpled and worse for wear. As the woeful, non-card sending heretic, I didn’t care. Cards delayed are still welcome. Including a unique envelope which caught my attention.

What to my wondering eyes should appear?

A handwritten envelope, all yellow with cheer!

I received a thank you note…a handwritten thank you note…from my favorite Soul Cycle instructor. And it stopped me in my tracks (or mid-spin?).

Who knew my allegiance to a fun-loving, 70’s vibing, spin teacher would result in “top 5 rider” status pour moi. My fave teacher slowing her roll to send a note of gratitude made my day. Scratch that. Made my week.

I knew she was on IG from comments she’d made in class, so I looked her up and messaged a thank you…for the thank you…to let her know her outreach and kindness was fabulous. She motivates me to move my body and gets me giggling in class – commiserating about life’s challenges. Yup. Through a screen. Not unlike the interactions I love with each of you, visiting each other, sharing our stories through technology.

All of which made me think about Wynne Leon’s recent podcast interview with Amy Weinland Daughters, the author of “Dear Dana”. Amy’s book is terrific and if you needed a reminder about the power of kindness and empathy, conveyed in heartfelt handwritten letters, her book will inspire. I promise. Here’s a clip from Wynne’s “How to Share” interview with Amy:

Here’s to the power of the pen.

Treasuring handwritten notes, letters – even recipe cards from days gone by. You pick! Although it might be more expeditious to send a DM or an email…when the opportunity arises, putting pen to paper…sealed with a smile is a marvelous gift.

Vicki 💝

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72 responses to “Power of the Pen”

  1. An important message. We live in such a fast moving world, where time is short and wasted. I wonder whether the reduction in cards reflects this, along with a measure of despair. But you are right to underline the importance of remembering people, Vicki. And condolences to Wynne on her loss. You two have good hearts.

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    1. Thank you, my friend. I wonder, too. “A measure of despair”. Those words ring true. ❤️

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  2. I received a late Christmas card from Ireland a couple of days ago and it provided a little warmth and cheer amid the polar vortex.

    Your mother-in-law sounds a lot like my Mum. She has a spiral bound date and address book that I gave her for her birthday years ago. She writes everything in that book. Every time I ask a question about a birthday, or how old someone is, or when someone died, out comes the book. I will need to secure custody of it after she’s gone.

    Enjoy your Sunday, Vicki!

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    1. Yes, yes! Please “secure custody”! I wish I still had Maxine’s address book. Fond memories, for sure. Sending Sunday morning hugs to you, dear Michelle! 💝

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      1. Right back at you my friend! 💚🤗💚

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    1. Oh…thank you so much, Joy! We try, don’t we? Xo! 🥰

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  3. Handwritten notes are the best. I’m a sucker for pretty stationary and I don’t know what the recipients think, but send out little notes like that is the best! And what a surprise to come from your instructor… such a treasure, indeed! 💝

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    1. Aww! Thank you, Erin! 🥰

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  4. What a cool story! It sounds like you might be a Peleton person? Bailey has one and is really into it! 🚴🏼‍♀️😎

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    1. Tell Bailey hi! I actually found a great deal on a similar Soul Cycle branded bike and I love it — and the on demand classes. ❤️😉❤️

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      1. Oh right! You did say Soul Cycle didn’t you🤦🏼‍♂️ My wife might be right about me not always paying attention to the details .. 😅

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        1. LOL! All good…tell Tammy I’m the same way! I miss so much all the time! Xo! ❤️

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  5. Great/relatable post, Vicki! Handwritten cards and messages are wonderfully welcome, but I understand it’s a difficult tradition to maintain in this digital age. I do still mail out birthday cards and such. 🙂

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    1. Yay for that — love that you still send cards, too. I’m with you – a welcome, personal touch. ❤️😉❤️

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  6. Wow! Such an important message. A handwritten sentiment is not only wonderful, but it’s also soothing.
    I don’t send Christmas cards, but I do send Happy New Year cards in early January. I started that when life was sooooo busy during the Christmas season. It gave me time to add a written note to the card or a thank-you for a Christmas gift. So I have continued to do so.
    I was in the habit of sending cards to our elderly loved ones. But they have passed or are not able to open the card now. Perhaps I need to do so for our not-so-elderly ones.
    I love buying pretty stamps. Or better yet, purchase old stamps and line them up on an envelope. So today I am off to write a letter or two. Thank you for the tender push.
    Enjoy your Sunday!

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    1. Soothing! Yes! Thank you so much, Nancy Lou. I’m not the least bit surprised that you are a thoughtful card sending person…and I can imagine the care you put into selecting cards, messages — and the gorgeous stamps! Cheers to writing letters. A good winter’s day thing to do and I’ve got a couple of those to work on today while it’s looking like a snow globe around here. I hope you’re enjoying a beautiful sunny day, my friend!
      Hugs and love! 💝😊💝

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      1. We are indeed, Vicki Lou. Stay warm dear friend! 🥰

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  7. I’m smiling, Vicki. I thought the note should say you were a top five writer!! Which is also true!

    I love the lift from your instructor – and how sharing it lifts us up as well.

    But what I love most is that I was just writing a post about Mr D sending a note and I hadn’t made the connection to Amy Weinland Daughters. Wow – that’s perfect. Thank you for the shout out and for amplifying Amy’s incredible message.

    Notes are a marvelous gift – no matter the time of year! Beautiful!

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    1. Loved your chat with Amy and the introduction to her book! Cheers to the fun synchronicity we often share. So good! xoxoxox! 🥰❤️🥰

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  8. how wonderful and I love her note! I am one of the dinosaurs who still writes handwritten notes and makes homemade cards and love receiving them too, so I can certainly appreciate this!

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    1. I know, right?!? I love being called out for being weird. So good! And you’re no dinosaur, my friend! You encourage all of us to stay in step — thanks to your thoughtfulness. Leading the way with inspiration! Hugs! ❤️🥰❤️

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  9. I love a handwritten note, too. I stopped sending Christmas cards decades ago, primarily because everyone doesn’t celebrate “Christmas.” Instead, I send Happy New Year cards, with mantras specific to each person ❤

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    1. So good. I can imagine how treasured a custom mantra from you would be – what a gift to receive. Hope all is well with you! Sending love, dear Katherin! ❤️🥰❤️

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        1. Perfecto! ❤️😉❤️

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  10. In a sometimes impersonal world, there is nothing better than a sincere, handwritten note.

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    1. As always, you speak with grace, Pete. Perfectly put! ❤️😉❤️

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  11. One of the things lost in our fast paced digital world is the beauty in the slowness of handwritten messages, sent snail mail, and received in a mailbox and opened with our excited grateful fingers. This must’ve been such a lovely message to receive; your words practically glow with glee and appreciation! 🥰

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    1. Ab! “Excited, grateful fingers”…so lovely. You’ve captured the feeling so well! Sending hugs to you! ❤️🥰❤️

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  12. Great acknowledgement of reality, Vicki. I try to do things right too.

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    1. I just know you do, Tim. Appreciate the solidarity with you! ❤️😉❤️

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  13. What a wonderful note from your instructor! There’s nothing like a handwritten note! It may be a thing of the past, but people do appreciate them. One of my husband’s bosses was an advocate for hand written notes and didn’t believe emails and texts made the same impression. Also, one of my childhood friends and her husband worked for Nordstrom. The husband was promoted to the executive team and she was in charge of dresses for the entire company. They both swear it was because of their handwritten notes to their employees.

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    1. Elizabeth! Terrific examples. Nothing like a handwritten note — yes, yes! Thanks so much. ❤️🥰❤️

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      1. Those two examples are good reminders to me! Thanks for sharing your note. 💕

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        1. You betcha! Xo! 😘

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  14. I’m sort of a hybrid holiday card sender where I print some in advance and write some. I can so relate to avoiding Excel. I literally have a beat-up rolodex. If someone moves, I turn the index card over and put the new one on the back and cross out the old. 😂 It can get really messy. But onto your note! Giving you a written personal message brought a ton of real joy and smiles. How wonderful! And that insanely good feeling is exactly what Amy was getting at! People clearly still desire that connection because of their reaction to it. Thanks for giving us something to think about., Vicki. Like cursive writing, we don’t want mailing personal notes to disappear forever.

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    1. I love that you flip your Rolodex cards over! You get me…you do! I think you made the point so well – craving connection. Yep, yep! Sending big hugs to you, dear Melanie! ❤️🥰❤️

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  15. I always relish finding another similarity! 😊 (And don’t get me started on being called weird, hahaha.) Love clicking with you! Thanks for your inspirational posts always! Xo ❤️🥰❤️

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    1. Same, same sister friend! Love ya! ❤️

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  16. Love you right back!!!!!! 💝

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  17. Oh I was just thinking about this: I miss writing and getting handwritten notes. I really hope we have a renaissance of OG notes. You get a note like you shared and it just lands differently than an email. Maybe it’s the handwriting or the sunny paper or underlined words. It’s just different and is so meaningful! Well said friend!

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    1. Lands differently! Exactly!! Thank you Brian!!! ❤️🥰❤️

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  18. A beautiful post, and message! We should really take time… or make time, better said, for one another.

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    1. Ahh!!! Yes, yes! Thank you Nicole.
      Xo! ❤️

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      1. You are very welcome, Victoria! 🙂
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  19. […] with synchronicity. I was writing this post when I read Vicki Atkinson’s beautiful post, Power of the Pen. In it she so eloquently captures the beautiful impact of receiving heartfelt notes. She also […]

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  20. I keep promising myself I will take out my box(es) of writing paper and send notes off… just because. You might have given me the extra kick in the pants I need!

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    1. Aww! Dale…thank you so much. Happy to be of service – lovely to “meet” you!❤️🥰❤️

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      1. Lovely to e-meet you, too! 💞

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  21. Sorry, but I draw the line at thanking someone for a thank you. That’s a slippery slope I avoid at all costs; otherwise, we’ll still be thanking each other in 2029.

    And I am Team Holiday Card. Always a photo card. I’d have sent you one, but then you’d thank me, and I’d thank you, and we’d still be thanking back and forth next Christmas. See above: slippery slope.

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    1. Oh my stars…you put a Monday morning grin on my face! LOL TO THE MAX!
      😜❤️😜

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  22. What a treat to receive that! I love you thanked her for her thank you! I send out fewer Christmas cards each year too. Sadly. What I really miss is how we used to send handwritten letters to each other. That’s almost completely gone now. Maybe it’s why I started blogging–my need to write to someone, share my deepest thoughts and newest excitements, to those who may respond in the comments. I always love our exchanges, dear friend. Sending love.

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    1. Oh…all of that love right back to you. Thank you for inviting us in…ever grateful we’ve connected, my friend. Especially right now with all there is to be anxious and unsure about…leaning into our like-minded dear ones is a gift, gift, gift.
      Big hugs! 💝💝💝

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  23. Great message, my friend. Gratitude is powerful, and like I mentioned to Wynne in her last post, it’s wonderful that Mr. D learned that lesson so early in his life.

    I’m bad with cards, I send zero each year, but my better half is a super-duper card sender who seems to send close to a hundred every December, so I’m covered there.

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    1. Your lovely wife sounds like an awesome partner! 🥰
      And I’m with you about Mr. D. — Wynne’s a great mom — setting wonderful examples for her kids.
      Thanks much, Edward!
      Appreciate you! 🥰

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      1. You’re welcome, my friend. Yes, she is always saving this introverted soul. A great partner indeed.

        I agree with you about Wynne—she is doing a fantastic job.

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        1. So good — all around! 🥰❤️🥰

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  24. “returning address labels save me” Same 🙋🏼‍♀️😄 (in a folder) I’ve done the spreadsheet list and find it more time consuming. I still send holiday cards but, like most people, far less than I once did. It is a joy to send and receive handwritten cards, isn’t it. Thank you for the heartwarming post and the video clip is touching. ❤️

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    1. Thank you, Michele! Glad to know I’m not the only one who is spreadsheet averse! Sending hugs! 🥰❤️🥰

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      1. You’re very welcome, Vicki and hugs! ❤️ Coincidentally, I was just working on one. Less festive reasons than holiday cards. Sometimes they are a necessity.

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        1. Definitely true. You are thoughtful! ❤️

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          1. Thanks Vicki, I feel that same about you. ❤️

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            1. So good! I’m smiling! ❤️🥰❤️

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