He Told Me So…

When he’s right, he’s right. Hubby (Paul) offered a cautionary comment recently re: a frequent flyer on our deck. A squirrel I’ve become fond of – he with the ragged tail, suggesting he’d been in more than one skirmish, but survived.

On first acquaintance he looked as though he was fresh from a brawl. Exhausted and overwrought, collapsing like a squirrel-sized version of a bear skin rug, relaxing in a shady spot near a potted fern.

I sat with a glass of iced tea, catching a moment of quiet in the early afternoon. I wasn’t expecting company. Squirrely lifted his head slightly but didn’t budge from his collapsed pose. I nodded in reply and offered, through the screen door, “Tough day, buddy?”. His ears popped and he cocked his head and we sat — each of us catching a breather.

Later than afternoon, I got a better look at my new friend. Scrawny was the word that came to mind. Hungry and thirsty? I’d just had my daily nosh of a few almonds and walnuts and felt gluttonous, eating in front of my friend. Deciding to share, I slid the screen door open and tossed a couple of nuts in his direction with a, “Here you go, friend.”

That was Day One. For several days after, we’d meet at the same time, same place. Me with my iced tea and a handful of nuts, he with his hopeful eyes.

But when Paul recognized the routine, he shook his head and said:

“No, no, no. You’re gonna be sorry. Too close to the door. Next thing you know, he’s gonna be popping in to help himself. Mark my words.”

I sighed and complained.

“You’ve got no heart at all, do you? Look at him. He’s been to hell and back. I’m just being friendly. And he’s such a good listener. Attentive, even!”

When you’ve been married 40+ years a little jab here and there is necessary for one’s sanity. A little jousting. All in fun!

Paul harrumphed. I smiled. Until the next day. When I saw my furry friend positioned just inches from the screen door — a full two feet closer than he’d been before. I reconsidered my husband’s wisdom. Squirrely was readying himself for a buffet. Wondering if he might serve himself and hop on in? I dunno but his presence, sniffing the frame around the screen door, startled me for sure.

I sat and watched him, watching me.

But I didn’t have the heart to eat in front of him. No nuts for me as we began a standoff. Squirrely staring at me as I pretended to read email on my laptop. Occasionally I’d peek as he sat, fully frozen like a statue in a beggar’s pose. Whoa boy. I’ve done it now. Paul was right.

I ignore Squirrely and moments later, I sigh with relief when I notice he’s no longer by the door! Hurray! I’m the winner. He’s left. On to other adventures. Until I feel beady eyes glaring at me, sitting atop a deck chair. At eye level. I swear he was thinking, “Try to avoid me now, okay, lady?”

I swiveled my chair. Determined not to be ousted from my comfy spot because of pushy wildlife. My once-upon-a-time docile friend was an immovable critter for a whopping fifteen minutes. Talk about determination. He didn’t flinch — not even when I lifted my phone to snap a pic.

There’s a lesson here, of course. But can we please keep it between us? Paul was right. Don’t get too friendly. You’ll be sorry. And while we’re at it, can you keep one more confidence for me? I’m still feeding Squirrely. I just moved into the yard and away from the door. Speaking of which, it’s about that time. Don’t mind me…I’m only moseying out to get the mail…

Vicki 💝

P.S. Our apple tree is doing its thing. Attracting plenty of bunnies and a new family of deer. I know it’s aggravating when the deer eat all sorts of things – hydrangeas, hostas, etc, but aren’t they sweet? A new couple – yet to be named:

I wish I knew how I managed to get the ultra-soft focus for the pic of the doe…a total accident. She looks like she’s stepping out of a painting, and I have no idea how I did that.


Hi – I’m Victoria, Vicki, Dr. Vicki. I hold a doctorate in Adult Education and I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), and author of Surviving Sue and Slivers.

Check out this link to learn more about my book “Surviving Sue” – all about resilience and love. Check out this link to order “Slivers”…a ghost story with surprising twists.



104 responses to “He Told Me So…”

  1. But squirrels are so cute! And smart.

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    1. Aren’t they, though? And I think this one could tell time, too! 😜

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  2. LOL! I totally understand, Vicki. They’re all so cute, until they are taking just one bite out of all the produce you’ve been waiting to ripen.

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    1. Oh my goodness, yes! You with the beautiful garden — yes! 😜❤️😜

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  3. Lovely pictures of the squirrel and the deer, Victoria. I’ve never seen a doe and buck together except during mating season, when a doe will lure a buck with her odor and movements. I haven’t seen a flying squirrel for a long time.

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    1. Thanks, Tim! And yes…these two…they navigate the backyard at the same time but keep their distance. It’s really sweet….like they’ve got an arrangement to share the apples but no lovey-dovey togetherness, LOL!
      😜❤️😜

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  4. We’re in a longrunning cold war over our half a dozen or so squirrels’ constant raids on the bird feeders, Vicki. But we love them anyway. Sort of. And then there’s this: If Only They Weren’t So Cute! – Mitch TeemleyMitch Teemley

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    1. Mitch! What a cautionary tale (tail???) How did I miss this post? Wow and whoa….okay then. Message received. Thanks for the giggle – so glad I wasn’t as brave as you, hand-feeding. And your opening photo? I could feel the impending doom before I read a word! Thank you, friend (and I hope you healed well!)
      ❤️😊❤️

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    Time to open one of your old text books, especially the ones about laboratory rats, food pellets, and levers. Or, you can keep going outside, Vicki! Maybe you would have topped B. F. Skinner, at least until the rain comes! In any case, you do have a big heart and my applause.

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    1. Haha! Very funny. You’re right! Feels reminiscent…yes!
      Thanks for giggle! 😉❤️😉

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  6. awww, you were so sweet, it’s your natural instinct, and i so get this! and i won’t tell paul. ps – that deer picture!!

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    1. Oof! Thanks for keeping my secret! And yes…how did I do that — with the deer pic?!?! 😜❤️😜

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      1. a secret creative genius –

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        1. Hah! You know better! Just me…stumblin through! 😜❤️😜

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  7. Cute pictures of your sweet critters. Wouldn’t it be lovely if wildlife could read our minds and hearts? Or better yet, if we could speak their language? Then they would know where the boundaries are and we could continue to enjoy each other’s company. 💕🐿️🦌💕

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    1. Yes, Rose – yes! ❤️❤️❤️
      And…I’m sending loads of love. Your post today? Powerful and I’m grateful to you for writing it. ❤️❤️❤️

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  8. Wow, we don’t always give our furry friends enough credit, do we? Inching closer to the door is one thing, but climbing onto the deck chair is quite another!

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    1. Haha, yes! Good point! Antics worthy of Walter and Mimi, maybe? Xo, Belinda!
      ❤️😉❤️

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  9. Okay, I gotta admit, I’m with Paul on this one. Ha, ha. I’ve been told that I’m mean!!! Squirrels look all nice and cuddly . . . but they’re stubborn little critters who keep coming back. Ha, ha. You’ve just made a friend for life.

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    1. I think you’re right…guess who just made an appearance on the deck, looking all hopeful??? 🤪🤪🤪

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  10. Love your photos of your squirrel and new deer family. We used to vacation in Laguna Beach and there was one beach where squirrels hung out and one local resident fed them. They were so aggressive! They chewed through my soft cooler and beach bag for snacks. I think you’re wise to feed your squirrel in the yard!

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    1. Wowza! That IS aggressive. In the yard it is! Thanks, Elizabeth! 😜❤️😜

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  11. Greatly enjoyed your squirrel chronicle, Vicki! It knows your home is not a “food desert.” 🙂

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    1. Good one! Yes, indeed! Thank you, Dave! 😜❤️😜

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  12. You’re welcome, Vicki! 🙂

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  13. So funny!! Sounds like that squirrel is nuts for you!! We won’t tell Paul though – but given you’ve been married for 40+ years, I’m betting he already knows… 🙂 Thanks for the smile and delightful pictures, dear Vicki! ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. You are so right! Drat! He does (Paul, that is!) “know things”. Sending big hugs!!! 🤣❤️🤣

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  14. This reminded me of two stories:

    Debbie had a cat when we first got together that loved to go in and out of the apartment all day. If we didn’t answer the door promptly, it would climb onto the window screen and look inside as if to say, What’s the problem with you people? Let me in!

    2. A friend of mine lived near some woods and began feeding a raccoon. Within days, four or five raccoons were showing up at his back door. He fed them each day, which I knew was not a good idea with wild animals. One night he took his wife and kids out to dinner and a movie. When they got home, the raccoons, who were waiting for their usual meal, got impatient and had ripped through the screen door.

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    1. Oh my goodness! Hilarious…Debbie’s cat, especially! And the raccoon story?!? What a cautionary tale! Exactly what Paul is worried about. Thanks for the giggles and the wake-up call, Pete!
      🤪❤️🌞

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  15. squirrels know when there are freebies to be had. And they can never have too much. Lol.

    fun post, Vicki.

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    1. Freebies…yes! Smart, aren’t they?!? Sending hugs, Nigel! ❤️😉❤️

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      1. Have a great day, Vicki.

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        1. You, too! You, too! ❤️😉❤️

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  16. Naughty squirrel 🤭
    Love your photographs Vicki.
    Thank you for sharing.❤️🥰❤️

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    1. Love you, Maggie! ❤️😉❤️

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      1. Vicki 🥰❤️🥰
        Tots of jellies xo
        Love you too!

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        1. !!!❤️❤️❤️!!!

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  17. You’re like a real like Disney Princess, Vicki! Chatting with, feeding and making friends with the animals. Are you singing to them too? 😊

    We’ll keep this between us! 😊 And I have to say, that squirrel is darned cute, especially on the patio chair! And what a blessing to welcome such majestic deer into your land!

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    1. Shoot! Could you hear me?!? I did sing a little but wasn’t gonna confess! You…dear friend,..you’re starting to know me too well! 😜❤️😜 xo!

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  18. yeah. in my house it would be me telling my husband not to do it. like I do when he wants to overfeed the dog….

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    1. Haha! I hear you — good thing we’ve got partners who balance us out! 😉❤️😉

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  19. I remember your past encounters with Squirrely, but you were sitting outside in the fall (or maybe it was only a relative of Squirrely. It’s hard to say.) That photo of him moving to the chair so he could be at eye-level CRACKED ME UP. Thanks for a big laugh to start my day. 🥰

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    1. I know, right??? I felt like I was about to get a lecture…a big “talking to”, LOL! And yes…a relative….maybe a cousin of a former Squirrely friend? Sending Wednesday love to you, Melanie! 😜❤️😜

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      1. Squirrel!!! Whoops, sorry I was distracted. 🤪 Thanks for the Wednesday shout-out! XOXO 😘♥️😘

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        1. Haha!!! Xo! 😘❤️😘

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  20. Vicki, during this past winter when we had pretty much a foot of ice around the house, we helped out our local squirrels by tossing out some shelled nuts each day. That practice has continued through the spring and into the summer. If they happen to be in the vicinity at the time the patio door opens, they’ll actually sit up and look at us like…”is it time to go nuts?” Once we toss them down, they race to the rewards. We enjoy their company…at a distance, of course!

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    1. Love this Bruce! A nice example of peaceful coexistence! And I love your “time to go nuts” observation — too funny. And true! They were waiting.
      🤪❤️🤪

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  21. We feed our wildlife, but we do it away from the house. Otherwise, they will devour the wires on my car, chew holes to get under the house, etc. Animals are very smart and know how to play on our heartstrings.

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    1. Sounds like the voice of experience and wisdom – earned the hard way, Dawn! Yes — I think the advice to “step away from the house”…is good and sound. Very smart critters…yes! Wednesday smiles to you! 😊💝😊

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  22. Thank you Vicki Lou for my afternoon giggle. They are cute but they live garages and attics. This I know!😳

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    1. You know what? I’ve learned so much about how pesky squirrels can be! Lessons learned by sharing here…seems we’ve all been bamboozled! Thanks so much, Nancy Lou! Love ya! 😜💝😜

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      1. Love ya more, Vicki Lou!

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        1. Awww….xoxoxoxo! 💝💝💝

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  23. This is hilarious and made me laugh out loud.

    He got you, with his raggedy tail 🤦🏽‍♀️

    And because I’m a writer, I shall re-write it for a different emphasis lol: he got you…with his raggedy tail 🤭

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    1. Now I’m the one LOL-ing! Thanks for the afternoon giggle! A perfect pick-me-up! xo, dear Katherin!
      😜💝😜

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  24. I love your wildlife stories … Squirrely and the deer are lovely. I agree about that soft focus pic. It looks like a painting

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    1. B….love you much! I’ll tell the wildlife you said hello. Xo! 😘

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      1. Love you back, V xxx
        Please do tell them. Living in the city with just blocks of flats we just get magpies, crows and seagulls. Although I have been watching the gulls on the roof across the road raising their baby

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        1. Oh…how sweet — the gulls and their baby! ❤️❤️❤️
          And absolutely…I will tell all the wildlife here that my sister friend — Brenda —from Scotland sends love. ❤️😘❤️

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  25. When I started reading this post, my first thought was what Bruce would say. He would wholeheartedly agree with Paul. 😂 He may go as far as to say you must be crazing encouraging squirrels. The squirrels in our yard are his nemesis because they eat all the birdseed from our feeders. Their acrobatics are quite jaw dropping.

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    1. Oof! Sounds like Paul…squirrels and their relentless pursuit of the bird feeders! Jaw dropping —- yes! 😜

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      1. I think we should never introduce Bruce and Paul to each other. 😂

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        1. Haha! You make a good point…
          🤪❤️🤪

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          1. They would cook up all sorts of squirrel shenanigans. 🐿️

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            1. You know it! Paul and his dad spent years trying to engineer a squirrel-proof bird feeder…without success! 🤣🤣🤣 Bruce and Paul could be a dangerous combo!

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  26. Hold on. Paul used the phrase, “Mark my words”? I’m afraid I’m going to have to issue a Cease and Desist order, Vicki. I’ve got that one trademarked.

    Don’t you hate it when your spouse is right? If I had a nickel every time I had to admit to Tara that she knew better than I, well…I could seriously consider early retirement.

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    1. I knew you’d zero in on that! I just knew it! LOL! And yes…darn it — Paul and Tara are the smart ones. Gah! But at least you and I recognize it, right? Why fight the reality? (And side note…gasp. I just returned home from a series of out and about meetings…wow. Hope you’re breathing okay up north, there…) 🥺

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      1. It’s really bad up here. Thankfully, I’m working from home…but I ventured out for a haircut on my lunch hour, and it was almost too painful to breathe. I hope the wind shifts soon!

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        1. Same…my eyes are really burning. I can’t imagine what it must be like closer to the actual fires, or for folks who have no choice but to work outside. Wow.
          I’m waving at you…tell all the girls hello. Tara, Laverne, Shirley…in that order! 💝💝💝

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          1. Well, Tara’s at work, so will you settle for Laverne, Shirley, and Tara…in that order…instead?

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            1. Okay…yes. That’ll do. But don’t forget about Tara and please have a cold drink waiting for her when she arrives home! Just because. 😊❤️😊

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  27. I’m with you, Vicki! Anything I can do to make a critter’s life a little easier, I’m in! Your critters are just beautiful- all of them!

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    1. Awww…thank you! We’re kindred that way. Love it…and you! ❤️😘❤️

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    2. And P.S. Hope you are doing okay with all the smoke…it’s pretty awful down here and I suspect even worse due north. Take care, pls! ❤️

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      1. Ah, thanks Vicki. It is awful. We just joined the YMCA for yoga and immediately realized the air conditioning would be a lifesaver during heat domes and forest fire smoke outs. Also the library! We really weren’t too worried about not having air conditioning until the last few weeks. 🙀 You are so sweet to think of us! I started doing my daily walks on the treadmill at the Y instead of outside, so it should be okay. Our poor planet deserves lots more love and care than she has been getting. 🌎🌍🌏Xxxooo

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        1. So relieved to hear this news…Yooper friends never needed air conditioning….but without it with these fires and smoke…gah! Air quality is a whole different thing. Scary and sad.
          💔💔💔

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          1. 🩵🌊🩵Praying for everyone and all of nature.

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            1. Indeed…❤️❤️❤️

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  28. You are so adorable. I’ll keep your secret. I love that you love the wildlife so much, even when they’re a teensy bit pesky. (That goes for husbands too. 😉 )

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    1. Haha! Thank you, dear Ilsa! Sending loads of love to you and the family! ❤️💝❤️

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      1. Love back! ❤ ❤ ❤

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        1. Received, received! 💝

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  29. Awesome, Vicki! But now part of the story sounded like a horror story, especially with the squirrel looking inside the house… psycho squirrel. 😂

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    1. Hahahahaha! You’re giving me ideas! Psycho squirrel! 😜❤️😜

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      1. Yes, maybe the slivers are involved. 😉

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        1. Oh my goodness…too funny! Yes, maybe so! 😜

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  30. Great squirrel story! It reminds me of the time growing up where my cousin coaxed a squirrel into my grandmothers house during a family gathering😳😁🐿️ He didn’t have to try too hard😁
    I’m jealous that you often seem to have deer visitors to your yard😍

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    1. Ummm…was “that cousin” named Todd? LOL! 😜

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      1. Haha my goodness no! This cousin was a few years older and seemed much less afraid of getting in trouble than I was. We lived out our mischievous dreams through him😁😁

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        1. Okay! Just checking! 😜🤣😜

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