Dear Deer

When we moved into our current home a few years ago we were excited to see an abundance of wildlife in our backyard, especially the families of deer.  Our neighbors shared that the little nook (honestly, I don’t know what it’s called – a glen?) in our yard’s been a birthing spot for deer for years and years.  Each new family on our quiet street learns about the original inhabitants. 

True enough, every year we’ve been treated to engaging views of wobbly-legged newborn deer and we’ve watched intently as the youngsters learn how to nibble from the cherry tree and gobble the last of the fall bounty when the apple tree unloads after the first substantial frost.  A joy. 

Still, I know folks who hate the deer – lambasting them for eating their prized hydrangeas and peonies.  I mean…we like the flowers, too, but we figure there’s enough to go around to provide edibles for the first ‘residents’ and blooms aplenty for cut flower arrangements inside. 

But nature’s more than blooms and beauty. This year we saw more coyote than ever before roaming the area – often during daylight hours.  One of our neighbors had the terrible misfortune of finding a young deer that succumbed to the food chain – killed, no doubt by hungry coyotes.  I didn’t ask what they did with the remains.  I didn’t want to know – I was just relieved that it didn’t happen in our yard or in a sightline that I couldn’t ignore.

Last week?  The hubs and I discussed the fact that the deer have been sparse; very few nibbling on the cherries that are just now popping out on the lone productive tree.  Not long after, one sweet old deer, like a long-lost friend, hobbled through the yard. I recognized the distinctive marking on her left hind quarter from her visits last year. Somewhere along the way, this protective mama must’ve gotten into a tussle with a predator because she bore the scars in gnarly white gash, like graffiti in her fur.

As we took a closer look, she seemed exhausted.  Running for her life from a coyote the night before?  And then I worried about where her ‘peeps’ were.  In addition to limping, she was alone, and my heart was breaking. Just then, she turned and decided to sit for a spell, in the cool grass next to the field. 

The hubster took a few photos of her as she nibbled and the one I’ve included (above) was the best of the bunch but it doesn’t convey the angst in her eyes.  She watched us, unmoving as she ate, even though we were quite close.  Comforted by the fact that she didn’t see us as predators, we placed a couple of apples near her, hoping that she might nosh on those in addition to the grass.  

About thirty minutes later, she stood, giving us (and the apples) only a passing glance as she struggled to walk into the tall grass (and I hoped) toward safety. 

A few days passed and there was no sign of her until yesterday when we spotted her laying down, again, slowly eating, near the safe nook/glen.  Still no signs of her family…still showing signs of injury.

This morning I woke up thinking of her – wondering if she survived the night.  Hoping so with all my heart.  I know nature’s way is nature’s way, but it doesn’t make the viewing of pain any less difficult. Here’s to you, my dear, sweet deer.

Vicki ❤



46 responses to “Dear Deer”

  1. Oh I hope she’s okay. We often see deer when we visit my in-laws on their farm. They are lovely creatures and the fawns are so adorable.

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    1. They ARE so lovely – even though some regard them as nuisances. I just don’t see it. They’re graceful and gentle…such a joy to watch. Thanks much for your sweet comment – hope you have a lovely day today (and I’ll keep you posted if we spot “our girl” again). xo! 💕

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      1. You have a lovely day too, Vicki. And please do let me know if you spot the deer again.

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        1. I definitely will. Off to brew a cup of morning tea and I’ll have my eyes wide open, scanning her favorite spots. xo, Michelle! 🥰

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  2. Oh, how heartbreaking. We love our little wildlife friends. We helped a bunny return to its nest after a cat tried to take it. I scare the hawks away from my goldfinches. I might be messing with nature, but there’s more for them to eat out there in the wilderness.
    Prayers for your little deer friend.

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    1. Thank you for sharing all of that, Nancy. I always feel like I have a voice in my head telling me ‘not to mess with Mother Nature’ (like trying to feed our hobbled deer mama – or you shooing the hawks away or helping the bunny) but we can’t help ourselves, can we? Hugs to you this morning! 💕

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      1. Hugs right back!

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  3. I watched two cross the street in front of my on my early walk. We live with them but have had to give up much of gardening and even feeding the birds. They eat right out of the bird feeders. We have fences but they sail right over and nap at the edge of the garden.

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    1. Oh…what an image…the deer sauntering up to the birdfeeders! 😉 That must be absolutely maddening. They must think it’s a buffet stand just for them? A perfect example of the annoyance factor, Joy, despite how regal they are. Sending hugs to you this morning. 🥰

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    I am glad you wrote about the wildlife near you, Vicki. We have been trained to think of non-human life as “less than.” This allows many to treat them without respect, including inflicting the loss of the those places that best fit them and allow them to flourish.

    Increasingly, law suits are being brought with regard to animal rights. One example involved a zoo elephant, constrained by both his limited contact with other elephants, his lack of expansive freedom of movement, etc.

    Martha Nussbaum, a major philosopher at the U of Chicago, has written in defense of respecting all living beings. In a certain sense, we are all deer, as fragile as they are, and as much in need of our native place to live.

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    1. Hmmm…I think you’ve captured why the deep feelings surface when I see my deer friend in pain. We are animals – all of us – and interconnected. I’m not familiar with Martha Nussbaum. Thank you, as always, for giving me something to grow on/read about. The older I become, the more I believe in the nonsense of ‘less than’ – just as you described – for all living things. Hugs to you on a Tuesday morning, Dr. Stein! 🥰

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  5. Thank you for sharing the account of the deer in your backyard, Victoria! 🙏🏻

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    1. Thank you for reading, Art! I hope your Tuesday is terrific! 🥰

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      1. You’re welcome, Victoria. My pleasure. Your account of the deer reminded me of my sister and brother-in-law’s past home in Halifax, Nova Scotia. They always had deer in their backyard at a certain time of year.

        I’ll be looking forward to your next post! Happy Tuesday to you, too!

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        1. I’m glad my post prompted a fun family memory! Thanks, Art! 😊

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          1. Yes, it is a wonderful family memory. You’re welcome!

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  6. Wow, you really do have a front row seat on Nature! And, as you’re being reminded, Nature can be as cruel as the world we’ve made for ourselves. Very nice post, Vicki.

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    1. Thank you, Jane. Yes — a front row seat…or maybe we’re the back row? I’m not sure. 😉 We don’t have that much land and we’re still in ‘suburbia’ but the back of our property abuts a busy road, and we suspect our yard is a haven/promised land for the sweet creatures that survive the crossing. Hope you’re doing well this morning, Jane. xo! 💕

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  7. Thank you Vicki for keeping a small safe place open for wildlife. I find it really difficult not to be preachy when folks complain about nature happening in their spaces since humans are snapping up all those spaces and leaving nothing for the creatures trying to survive.

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    1. Yes — agree, Deb. They were here first…and even though I understand the complaints about ‘eating all the landscaping’ I think it’s the stupidest thing to say. 😉

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  8. I can completely understand your concerns for the sweet deer, Vicki. While we don’t have deer here, I’ve also found myself shooing away the owl when young bunnies were nearby and taking injured birds to the wildlife rescue even though they’re just one of millions. As you mention, it’s hard to help ourselves. I hope the deer and her family are doing okay. Maybe they’ll pay you another visit soon. 💕

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    1. I sure hope so. I’ll keep you posted. I love your wonderful stories about your care and concern for nature/wildlife around you. So good! 🥰

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  9. I hope everything turns out OK for the deer. It’s cool that you have such a great place to watch the wildlife even though natures way is often tough to watch.

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    1. Gosh…what a great way of putting that…often tough to watch. Yep. Thanks, Todd. 💔

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  10. I love your nature photos and hope your sweet deer is surviving. I’ll spot deer in the middle of the day in the wash under a tree sitting like your photo. I was worried but realized, they are protecting themselves from the heat of the day.

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    1. Yes! I’ve loved your recent photos…and you’re right…cooling off and resting is a good thing. 😎

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      1. Keep us up to date with your dear deer!

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        1. I will do…do…just that – you, too! 🥰

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  11. Oh wow, add me and my thoughts to the circle of protection for that dear deer. I love that you are keeping track of your beautiful neighbors and sharing them with us! ❤

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    1. Aw! Thanks, Wynne! 🥰

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  12. Youre so lucky to have such adorable wildlife on your doorstep. I hope your deer recovers and you see the rest of her family soon

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    1. Me, too! Thanks, Brenda! 🥰

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  13. That is upsetting. We have deer also – so far so good, although Coyotes prowl too.

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    1. Thanks, VJ. It is upsetting, even though I understand it’s life. Sending hugs to you. 💕

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      1. Some aspects of nature, we’d prefer stay hidden, lol

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  14. We too have a similar deer hangout at our property – nature at its best!

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    1. I love that…they are beautiful…and while I understand hunters (and we have a few in our extended family) I try not to think about aspect. xo to you, Mary! 💕

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  15. We have deer around here and I have a love/hate relationship with them. They destroy plants but are beautiful. I also worry for their safety, but try to detach from the potential sadness of it. Still…

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    1. Thanks for that, Ally – a great way of describing what I’d like to do – detach from the sadness. Yes!

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  16. I don’t know why but I get overly excited when I see a dear. My mother was the same so I assume I’m emulating her reaction. She also loved bees and I have an unusual affection for them too. Now you have me all worried about your dear sweet deer, keep us posted. Thanks for sharing your glen with us. Hugs, C

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    1. Thank you! They are such regal animals, aren’t they? I love that you and your mother shared a love of deer…and bees. Appreciate you, Cheryl, for reading! 🥰

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