I was a lucky girl…working in higher education for many years as a faculty member, counselor and as an administrator. No matter which role I was in, providing support gave me purpose. Gave me joy.
Teaching is difficult, not just in the moment, but because it’s impossible to know how each student’s life story unfolds. When we’re fortunate, former students stay in touch but it’s an uncommon treat to catch up. Sometimes the updates come in the form of reference requests or letters of recommendation. I love that and I’ve written about the glorious opportunities I’ve had to highlight and endorse former students.
Every now and again, a former student reaches out with one intention only – just to give thanks. When that happens, I’ll be honest…I skim the email to see if there’s an ‘ask’ associated with the gratitude. I think it’s my task-minded brain. Yes, yes – you’re welcome – but what can I do for you now, I wonder? Not in an impatient way – but from an excited, whoo-hoo…an opportunity to sing praises? When, why, how?
When the outreach has the singular intent to say I made a difference, I shudder a little. I don’t like praise and truth be told, it makes me a little uncomfortable. It’s not me….I think. It’s YOU…it was always YOU. But then I remember…
When I’ve done my best work, I’m the guide and the mirror all in one. I might be the one highlighting the path, the possibilities, but I’m also pointing to the inherent, ever-present potential within. I like to think I’m just channeling Glenda, of Good Witch fame….”You’ve always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself.” Thank you…for the thank you but Glenda’s right. It was always you.
-Vicki 😊
A little more? Check out my post on Heart of the Matter for a moment of magic…from a former student and her gift of courage to her younger brother. She always had the power within and nope. No ruby slippers were required.
Victoria Ponders 
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