The Pouring Out


Some days I don’t think I offer much at all to others.  I’m not pandering for compliments; I’m just musing over the ’empty vessels’ that we can all become. I mean…it’s my job to be a listener, advisor, coach, and source of support. On a good day, I might provide a bit of inspiration, but this week has been a dilly.  Too much of everything — in motion all at once — which prompted me to sit back a little to do that pondering thing.

When I’m stuck, I dive into my trusty stash of “feel goods”.  Words from smart people, captured in pithy quotes which help me find the voice within that’s muffled and vague.  Meditative moments help, too, but this morning was not a good one for centering myself.  Cacophony, anyone? 😉Too many errant thoughts so I gave up.  And I was honked off about it because the task master in my brain was peeved.  “You need to reset…what are you doing bailing already?!”  The last thing you need when you’re feeling ‘off’ is ridicule from THAT voice.  Geez.

So, I meandered to my archives.  My ever-growing, overflowing snippets that help me reset and I found a gem!  Are you ready?  Here it comes:

Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.

-George Eliot (Author Mary Ann Evans’ pen name)

My guess is that Mary Ann/Eliot was referring to a particular friendship when she wrote about the glory of “pouring out words” but I realized when I re-read the quote, my ability to “pour out” often occurs as I write.  Sure, sure – a conversation with a dear one is great, and I’m blessed to have many, but today was a day where I just needed to name the malaise.  Call out my funk.  Give it a name…and move on. 

How do you, dear reader figure into that?  Well, you’re reading!  Whether you relate to my cloud cover or just popped by to see what Vicki was up to today, it’s all good.  I appreciate my blogging friends…whether new or longtime followers. Thank you for taking the time to read, commiserate, laugh, and wonder about life.  There’s glory all around but sometimes I need to sweep away the pesky bits and this post has done the trick. I’ve ‘blown the rest away‘.

Here’s to you…Happy Friday…with thanks!

Vicki ❤



42 responses to “The Pouring Out”

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    I suppose one way to change focus would be to begin or reread a masterpiece like George Elliot’s “Middlemarch.” If you don’t know it, you will become attached to the female heroine. It is a long read but worth every minute.

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    1. I love that you mentioned that, Dr. Stein! As I wrote, I almost meandered into a post about how much I love “Middlemarch” and restrained myself. It’s been a bit since I’ve read it…but I think I’m circling back. Thank you for the encouragement! 🥰

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  2. I’m unfamiliar with “Middlemarch” but you gave me something new to read. Thanks and have a great day and weekend!

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    1. Oh….I think you’ll love it! 🥰

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  3. First, you offer so much. It may be your job to be a listener, advisor, coach, and source of support … but you do realize how much people need that and don’t always have that in their crazy lives, right? I always find it funny that the “helpers” – the ones going into a burning building – don’t see the impact they have on others! Secondly, it’s such a minor point, but I’m so glad you mentioned your archive or encouragement folder. We all need one. I’m glad for the reminder. I need to update mine!! It makes a difference in the highs and lows. Finally, I know I love your posts, they help me see a different version of the world. Keep on writing Vicki!!!😎☺️😎😎

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    1. Oh…you are so sweet. Thanks, Brian. I think this week I felt all the juggling that many are carrying…myself included…and remembering to slow down is a good idea. I’m all better now 😎…just needed to reconnoiter myself and poof! She’s back! And I agree — those little bursts of inspiration that pop from blogging buddies and quotes from other smart folks? Does the trick!

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      1. When do you get your quiet office space back? Give yourself a break!! Not having that can pose a big challenge! I would be a mess without mine!!!

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        1. Oh wowza…you picked up on the ‘thing I didn’t say’. YES! It’s a noisy place around here. I’m grateful that we have wonderful folks helping us but the other day Wynne and I had to laugh…or cry…the pounding and noise from electricians was crazy and even with my headphones on, she was ‘part of the action’. I think the super noisy stuff will be done in a few weeks, in the meantime, I’m learning lessons in flexibility and adaptation. 🤣

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          1. The quiet space will come … just in time for the new book! Very cool!

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            1. Ah…yes…there’s that, too! I just got an email from the publisher yesterday…the final proofs are on their way to me to approve. 😊

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        2. I’m with Brian- I don’t how you’re surviving the construction- I barely made it through a one week project we did a few years back!

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          1. LOL! We’re in the messy middle and we’ll get there. 😜 Remembering to be grateful that we saved up enough to do it at all. But yeah…it’s noisy! 😳

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  4. I love the image of pouring out. We can’t sort it when it’s hidden away inside, can we? And I love Brian’s comment about having that archive/encouragement folder. You’ve inspired me to start one of those for my days – because I know what you’re talking about. And I think I’ll file this post away to start this folder. Thank you, dear Vicki!

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    1. Wait a minute — you’re MY inspiration because of your ‘quote trees’. I don’t think you need to take tips from me! You’ve always got a ‘bon mots’ or two at your fingertips! 🥰

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  5. Well thanks for that Vicki. You’ve helped to blow away some of my pithy’s too. Isn’t it grand how we’re all connected under the skin and what’s good for one is good for all? 👏

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    1. I love that! Seems like Friday morning was a good day to ‘air out’. Good to know I’ve got company! xo, Julia! 🥰

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  6. I appreciate you very much, Victoria! Thanks for sharing another great piece. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

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    1. Thank you, Art — you, too! Have a wonderful, restful weekend! 🥰

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      1. You’re welcome! Thank you so much for your kind wish! 🙂🧡

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  7. It’s always helpful to know that looking out on the world and making the assumption that life is grand for everyone but yourself on those days that nothing is the way we wanted or expected brings such authenticity to my worldview. Let’s face facts- some days are just crap, and while I am thankful to no end that they don’t happen often, I am also grateful to know that they happen to everyone 🙂 Thank you for being real and honest Vicki.

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    1. Thank you, Deb — I think you’re right on. I think it’s what I detest most about some aspects of social media. Every day isn’t sunny; some are ‘just crap’. 😉🤣😉

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  8. One of the first things I do when I meet someone new is I watch them as if I were some sort of detective. I observe how they handle someone’s faux pas. Do they highlight the misspoken words to embarrass the speaker, or do they sift them, as Mary says, “keeping what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.” I love people who make others feel welcome, who remove obstacles so others won’t stumble, you know, the ones who return their shopping carts when finished. These are the people you can call in the middle of the night and they act like it’s perfectly normal. You remind me of those kind of people Victoria. Have a fabulous weekend. Hugs, C

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    1. Oh my goodness, Cheryl. Your loving comment warms me all over. Truly. I aspire to be the person you’ve described…shopping carts, late night phone calls and all. 🥰 All of the small things that add up to show character, heart, compassion – they matter so very much. I think you also shared a behavior that I’m not always conscious of in myself – surveying those around me to see kindness in action and when I detect the opposite – the subtle shaming or slights that flow so freely at times – I’m in appraisal mode, too. I may not react, but I remember. I bet you’re also the person who tries to divert and redirect when you can. Providing the lift and love. Big hugs back to you, dear one. xo! 🥰💕🥰

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    2. “These are the people you can call in the middle of the night and they act like it’s perfectly normal.” I love that description, and, yes, I believe Vicki would be one of those to her friends.

      And, Vicki, since you said sometimes quotes help, here’s one you might like from John Muir: “Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul.”

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      1. Love that, EW! Thank you! 🥰

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  9. Lots of good comments for you already, Vicki. Sometimes we do just have to slow down a bit and not expect everything to be perfect. So simple, but we are inclined to forget. It’s part of learning to be kind to ourselves, not just others. 😊

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    1. Thank you, Jane. I think you’re right. I can get swept up in my own good intentions and expectations and I know I’m not alone. Lessons worth remembering…being kind to ourselves. Sending love! 💕

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  10. I think as Jane said, everyone has said lots already. It must also make you feel good/better that there are so many people here for you dear Vicki. 🤗
    Youre right, sometimes being there for everyone else is emotionally draining. And because you work at home and yours is upside down because of the works so you don’t have a quiet space to escape to. Sending hugs and love Vicki ❤️ 🤗

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    1. Thank you! Sending hugs right back to you! 🥰🥰🥰

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  11. My brain is mush after a looong week and everyone else said it better than I could. Instead, I’m sending a big hug your way. Happy Friday! ❤️ 🤗

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    1. I’ll take it…and send a big hug right back to you! 🥰🥰🥰

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  12. I am pleased you took another road less traveled today!😊
    Love this – “Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away. – George Eliot (Author Mary Ann Evans’ pen name)”

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    1. Thank you, Mary! 🥰

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  13. The quote you chose to share certainly did the trick for you. And you wrote a lovely honest and authentic post.
    Sometimes it’s good to empty the vessel and remain empty for a short while, because then when it rains you begin overflowing.
    I wish you both in the best of ways. 🌸

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    1. So beautiful, Alegria! I think you’re right…there’s a little magic in enjoying the lighter feeling. No need to fill up again immediately. Thank you! 😉❤️😉

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  14. Isn’t blogging grand? Seriously. When in a funk or a sad place, connecting with my bloggy buddies really helps lift me out. I’m glad you got that from this too. 🙂

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